Thanks again all of you.
He called me to come home. The more questions I asked the more I came to realize that he is just looking for a quick fix.
His temper rose when I didn't react the way he wanted me to. He went from please I will do anything you say to you threw me out with two bags and no where to go.
I reminded him that he had 1 and half mths to find a job before court. He said he got the job at mcdonalds before he went (he started the next mon after his ct date the thurs before)to court and that was all that mattered.
I told him that we allowed him to stay here during that 1 and half mths and he chose to come home once a week to sleep for a day or two and dissappear with his buddies for another week.
I just kept repeating that it was his choices that got him where he is and he has to make the choice to change, of course that was met with a temper because he wouldn't be calling me if he had somewhere else to go. He didn't say he wanted to change only that he was hungry and couldn't stay where he was.
The hardest thing I have had to do so far ~ I told him I would give him the # to the shelter so he would have a roof and a meal.
This is hard, but I know now he is not ready to change.
I wouldn't have made it this far with out all of you and your insight, I thank each and everyone of you for the time you took today to post your responses, you all deserve a huge [[[hug]]] and a very heartfelt thank you
