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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 472194" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm sorry you are in such pain and am sending supportive hugs your way. The members who have posted have hands on experience that I do not have. I do have alot of experience having rasied eight and via Court volunteer work that I have done. My gut tells me that your teen either was a victim or a witness to unacceptable acts. Something specific happened and he needs to share with a qualified professional. No matter how caring you and your husband are he has internalized something that shook him to the core and he can't share freely with you. </p><p></p><p>I'm also concerned that your Doctor is not leading your search for appropriate help. Over the years I have had a number of therapist, psychologists and psychiatrists involved with difficult child issues. A Pediatrician is not qualified to help.</p><p>The selection of other professionals is complex because you need a medical partner. For example there are experts in sexual abuse issues (I had to drive two hours away to find one but it was worth the trip). There is a wide range of specialists and in my humble opinion no qualified specialist just makes notes on frightening and bizarre behaviors and then suggests that the Mom explore medications. If this child has not been fully evaluated there is no way to know which direction is necessary. </p><p></p><p>It's the middle of the night and my post may not sound supportive but it is intended to be. My impression is that you and your husband have been relying on love and home stability to make this boy well. He is not a well child and the chances are that his mental health issues may not be solvable with-o endangering those in your home and all he comes in contact with outside the home. With great compassion for you all I strongly suggest that you find out from experts exactly who he is, whether there is any reason to hope for improvement and how everyone can be safe even if it means you relinquish your custody. Your decisions are paramount for the safety of others.</p><p></p><p>Sending supportive thoughts and prayers your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 472194, member: 35"] I'm sorry you are in such pain and am sending supportive hugs your way. The members who have posted have hands on experience that I do not have. I do have alot of experience having rasied eight and via Court volunteer work that I have done. My gut tells me that your teen either was a victim or a witness to unacceptable acts. Something specific happened and he needs to share with a qualified professional. No matter how caring you and your husband are he has internalized something that shook him to the core and he can't share freely with you. I'm also concerned that your Doctor is not leading your search for appropriate help. Over the years I have had a number of therapist, psychologists and psychiatrists involved with difficult child issues. A Pediatrician is not qualified to help. The selection of other professionals is complex because you need a medical partner. For example there are experts in sexual abuse issues (I had to drive two hours away to find one but it was worth the trip). There is a wide range of specialists and in my humble opinion no qualified specialist just makes notes on frightening and bizarre behaviors and then suggests that the Mom explore medications. If this child has not been fully evaluated there is no way to know which direction is necessary. It's the middle of the night and my post may not sound supportive but it is intended to be. My impression is that you and your husband have been relying on love and home stability to make this boy well. He is not a well child and the chances are that his mental health issues may not be solvable with-o endangering those in your home and all he comes in contact with outside the home. With great compassion for you all I strongly suggest that you find out from experts exactly who he is, whether there is any reason to hope for improvement and how everyone can be safe even if it means you relinquish your custody. Your decisions are paramount for the safety of others. Sending supportive thoughts and prayers your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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