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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 751273" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Last night at 9:45 pm. Older son, sends me an e-mail. </p><p></p><p>"After 5 days of no laundry I finally have to call out. Possibly two days in a row to pay day Friday. Between that, no gas and no food you have ruined any chances I'd have. Now I'm at serious risk if I lose my job and don't get enough cash to make a payment on my car. You're a b*%^@*." </p><p></p><p>I don't reply anymore.</p><p></p><p>Then at 11:15 pm the Younger son texts me and my stomach does a flip flop at that time of the night. Says he has no gas and it sitting in his car. Wants to know if his Dad has blocked him cuz he's not answering. I've been expecting this because my ex-husband said he was going to stop funding younger son. No matter how much I brace myself, it still hurts. Younger son, has not been verbally abusive to me "lately", however, he's been funded by the Bank of Daddy. </p><p></p><p>However, I quickly prayed and returned a text and said "I'm sorry, I don't give out money anymore and I unfortunately will have to block you right now. Sorry I can't help." I cannot believe I didn't hear back from him in some other fashion, either showing up at my work or calling my work.</p><p></p><p>I told my therapist that's how I start out all my conversations now with sons (when I'm speaking with them). "I do not give out money anymore" is my mantra. She suggested I put that on my voicemail as well so when they call and leave messages they'll hear that and as far as anyone else that knows me, well, they'd likely understand.</p><p></p><p>I am making progress for certain but I will say it is exhausting. I am always bracing, emotionally and physically and then on the weekends I end up taking a nap because I'm so drained. </p><p></p><p>But by the grace of God go I!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 751273, member: 23405"] Last night at 9:45 pm. Older son, sends me an e-mail. "After 5 days of no laundry I finally have to call out. Possibly two days in a row to pay day Friday. Between that, no gas and no food you have ruined any chances I'd have. Now I'm at serious risk if I lose my job and don't get enough cash to make a payment on my car. You're a b*%^@*." I don't reply anymore. Then at 11:15 pm the Younger son texts me and my stomach does a flip flop at that time of the night. Says he has no gas and it sitting in his car. Wants to know if his Dad has blocked him cuz he's not answering. I've been expecting this because my ex-husband said he was going to stop funding younger son. No matter how much I brace myself, it still hurts. Younger son, has not been verbally abusive to me "lately", however, he's been funded by the Bank of Daddy. However, I quickly prayed and returned a text and said "I'm sorry, I don't give out money anymore and I unfortunately will have to block you right now. Sorry I can't help." I cannot believe I didn't hear back from him in some other fashion, either showing up at my work or calling my work. I told my therapist that's how I start out all my conversations now with sons (when I'm speaking with them). "I do not give out money anymore" is my mantra. She suggested I put that on my voicemail as well so when they call and leave messages they'll hear that and as far as anyone else that knows me, well, they'd likely understand. I am making progress for certain but I will say it is exhausting. I am always bracing, emotionally and physically and then on the weekends I end up taking a nap because I'm so drained. But by the grace of God go I! [/QUOTE]
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