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Her idea of an apology.... am I wrong?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 468317" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I'm torn on this. Only you knows if a relationship with her is toxic. If it is then the less contact you have with her the better. But if this is just her way then I guess you have to decide whether it's worth causing dissention in the entire family, because it will. To me family is important. difficult child's cause a great deal of stress and trouble in a family and in the extended family. My sister and I have had no relationship for a year over difficult child. It extended to my father and he is 92 years old and I do not wish for him to pass having strained feelings so I am trying my best to put it behind me. I miss my sister but the rift is too wide at this point to repair.</p><p></p><p>Your mom is showing concern for you and your kids. It may not be the way you want it but it's all she knows at this point. Her apaology was the best apology she could give. Apologies are hard, the person tries to save face. It takes a while to perfect them. A simple "I sorry I hurt you" should be easy to say but it's not.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying you should allow your mother in your life if you feel she's too disruptive, but I am saying that I wish I had parents to even ask how difficult child was instead of ignoring that she exists.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 468317, member: 59"] I'm torn on this. Only you knows if a relationship with her is toxic. If it is then the less contact you have with her the better. But if this is just her way then I guess you have to decide whether it's worth causing dissention in the entire family, because it will. To me family is important. difficult child's cause a great deal of stress and trouble in a family and in the extended family. My sister and I have had no relationship for a year over difficult child. It extended to my father and he is 92 years old and I do not wish for him to pass having strained feelings so I am trying my best to put it behind me. I miss my sister but the rift is too wide at this point to repair. Your mom is showing concern for you and your kids. It may not be the way you want it but it's all she knows at this point. Her apaology was the best apology she could give. Apologies are hard, the person tries to save face. It takes a while to perfect them. A simple "I sorry I hurt you" should be easy to say but it's not. I'm not saying you should allow your mother in your life if you feel she's too disruptive, but I am saying that I wish I had parents to even ask how difficult child was instead of ignoring that she exists. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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