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Here is my letter to Scott. Did I act too needy?
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 99157" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>GG hit the nail on this head! This is it! Truly! </p><p></p><p>A story, and one in no way, reflecting your own parenthood, just a simile between your son and my sister.</p><p></p><p>My sister, age 37, recently went through 2 years of refusing to talk to our parents. She had a lot of reasons, some abuse from our father, her coming out as a lesbian, a painful divorce, and a jillion billion other reasons. I would talk to her about my resolution and therapy in regards to my dad's abuse, and how I had chosen to still have a relationship with him, but there was just no way she could fathom that. She thought <em>I</em> was the one that was bonkers.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion, I really believe she could not realize the extent to which forgiveness and unconditional love can be extended to family, without the presence of her own children. </p><p></p><p>Then my dad developed terminal brain cancer. She was by his bedside in a NY second. She was so grief stricken that he might die without her having resolution with him, it just about gave her an ulcer, but it also forced her true feelings to be revealed. Ones that may have been more obvious to her, had she had to endure some unconditional love in the past.</p><p></p><p>I guess my answer to your letter, is that you had to do whatever your heart told you, and follow wherever your heart lead you. Somewhere, deep inside Scott, is a boy who loves you........don't stop reaching out to him, ever. Someday, he will come around, and he will be glad you were the unrelenting force of love that he calls his Mom. For now, just receive peace from that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 99157, member: 3301"] GG hit the nail on this head! This is it! Truly! A story, and one in no way, reflecting your own parenthood, just a simile between your son and my sister. My sister, age 37, recently went through 2 years of refusing to talk to our parents. She had a lot of reasons, some abuse from our father, her coming out as a lesbian, a painful divorce, and a jillion billion other reasons. I would talk to her about my resolution and therapy in regards to my dad's abuse, and how I had chosen to still have a relationship with him, but there was just no way she could fathom that. She thought [I]I[/I] was the one that was bonkers. in my opinion, I really believe she could not realize the extent to which forgiveness and unconditional love can be extended to family, without the presence of her own children. Then my dad developed terminal brain cancer. She was by his bedside in a NY second. She was so grief stricken that he might die without her having resolution with him, it just about gave her an ulcer, but it also forced her true feelings to be revealed. Ones that may have been more obvious to her, had she had to endure some unconditional love in the past. I guess my answer to your letter, is that you had to do whatever your heart told you, and follow wherever your heart lead you. Somewhere, deep inside Scott, is a boy who loves you........don't stop reaching out to him, ever. Someday, he will come around, and he will be glad you were the unrelenting force of love that he calls his Mom. For now, just receive peace from that. [/QUOTE]
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