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Here we go again - Women just aren't "allowed" to be stand up for themselves.
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 435213" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Do not ever let fear of this sort of response, talk you into backing down or not standing up for yourself.</p><p></p><p>I've also had males make passes at times. I've generally chosen to handle it gently, but with humour (as if they had to be joking!). I've also at times had to be really grotty to put a guy off. One bloke was getting very blatant in the things he said being near to me was doing to him. I told him to go home to his WIFE and have a cold shower. When he made comments about my cute rear end, I then said, "And the Depends don't even show, do they?"</p><p>When he came right out and asked me, I said to him, "You are not the first guy to ask and frankly, not the most attractive of all the propositions I've had. While I might like you as a friend, where sex is concerned you are at the end of the queue. Take a number, and wait. And by the way, my husband is first in the queue. Always. Second in the queue is, like you, also waiting for eternity."</p><p>Somehow I managed to stay friends with that guy but never trusted him again.</p><p></p><p>But sometimes being a woman in a conflict situation can be an advantage. A woman can get away with a lot more than a man. For example, we were down in the industrial estate visiting an aquarium supply store. As we walked in (I was with the kids) I saw two men fighting. One man shoved the other man and then punches were thrown. There were other people nearby, ignoring it. I sent the kids inside then turned and went back. I shouted loudly (I have a good voice and know how to use it) and told the men they should be ashamed of themselves, fighting like that in front of women and children. I made sure my voice was heard not just by the men but also by everyone else for about 200 yards around. The funny thing was, they both tried to bluster and justify, it was as if they were schoolboys on the carpet in front of the principal! I told them I didn't want to hear excuses, I wanted them to take their conflict away and learn more adult ways to resolve it. Then I turned my back on them, went back into the store and shakily asked the kid behind the counter to call the cops. The men did not stick around. But when I told husband about it later, he said a man could have been beaten up by one or both those men if he tried to say something or intervene. A woman like me, especially an obvious cripple, could get away with it - if any bloke tries to hit me, it will not look good for him in court! Assuming he gets that far...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 435213, member: 1991"] Do not ever let fear of this sort of response, talk you into backing down or not standing up for yourself. I've also had males make passes at times. I've generally chosen to handle it gently, but with humour (as if they had to be joking!). I've also at times had to be really grotty to put a guy off. One bloke was getting very blatant in the things he said being near to me was doing to him. I told him to go home to his WIFE and have a cold shower. When he made comments about my cute rear end, I then said, "And the Depends don't even show, do they?" When he came right out and asked me, I said to him, "You are not the first guy to ask and frankly, not the most attractive of all the propositions I've had. While I might like you as a friend, where sex is concerned you are at the end of the queue. Take a number, and wait. And by the way, my husband is first in the queue. Always. Second in the queue is, like you, also waiting for eternity." Somehow I managed to stay friends with that guy but never trusted him again. But sometimes being a woman in a conflict situation can be an advantage. A woman can get away with a lot more than a man. For example, we were down in the industrial estate visiting an aquarium supply store. As we walked in (I was with the kids) I saw two men fighting. One man shoved the other man and then punches were thrown. There were other people nearby, ignoring it. I sent the kids inside then turned and went back. I shouted loudly (I have a good voice and know how to use it) and told the men they should be ashamed of themselves, fighting like that in front of women and children. I made sure my voice was heard not just by the men but also by everyone else for about 200 yards around. The funny thing was, they both tried to bluster and justify, it was as if they were schoolboys on the carpet in front of the principal! I told them I didn't want to hear excuses, I wanted them to take their conflict away and learn more adult ways to resolve it. Then I turned my back on them, went back into the store and shakily asked the kid behind the counter to call the cops. The men did not stick around. But when I told husband about it later, he said a man could have been beaten up by one or both those men if he tried to say something or intervene. A woman like me, especially an obvious cripple, could get away with it - if any bloke tries to hit me, it will not look good for him in court! Assuming he gets that far... Marg [/QUOTE]
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