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Here we go again - Women just aren't "allowed" to be stand up for themselves.
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 435311" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Years and years ago when I was in university, I took a course on Interpersonal Communications as part of a psychology minor. This is the updated version of the textbook we used. In particular, I found the chapter on gender differences in communication to be fascinating -- and very useful.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Interpersonal-Communication-Everyday-Encounters-InfoTrac/dp/0534623166" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Interpersonal-Communication-Everyday-Encounters-InfoTrac/dp/0534623166</a></p><p></p><p>I have noticed that men and women use siginficantly different conversational patterns. And the same words and gestures are often interpreted completely differently by men and women. So you may think you're being perfectly clear and stating the obvious, but the men who are listening are getting a completely different message from the one you intend to send.</p><p></p><p>I too work in a very male-dominated industry (IT), where I am often the only woman. I've found that speaking fluent "guy" has allowed me to avoid a lot of the pitfalls that I used to run into when speaking to and dealing with men.</p><p></p><p>On the other side of the coin, I've had men tell me that they find women incredibly difficult to understand. We think we're being perfectly clear, and they find us mysterious and subtle.</p><p></p><p>I've found that you can be completely blunt with a man, where saying the same thing to a woman would cause offense and hurt feelings. For example: the other day, 2 of my co-workers were hanging around in my office chatting after a meeting. I said, "Both of you, get out now! I've got work to do". They smiled, saluted, and left. I would never ever say such a thing to a female co-worker, lest I permanently damage the working relationship .</p><p></p><p>It's like speaking a whole different language...</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 435311, member: 3907"] Years and years ago when I was in university, I took a course on Interpersonal Communications as part of a psychology minor. This is the updated version of the textbook we used. In particular, I found the chapter on gender differences in communication to be fascinating -- and very useful. [url]http://www.amazon.com/Interpersonal-Communication-Everyday-Encounters-InfoTrac/dp/0534623166[/url] I have noticed that men and women use siginficantly different conversational patterns. And the same words and gestures are often interpreted completely differently by men and women. So you may think you're being perfectly clear and stating the obvious, but the men who are listening are getting a completely different message from the one you intend to send. I too work in a very male-dominated industry (IT), where I am often the only woman. I've found that speaking fluent "guy" has allowed me to avoid a lot of the pitfalls that I used to run into when speaking to and dealing with men. On the other side of the coin, I've had men tell me that they find women incredibly difficult to understand. We think we're being perfectly clear, and they find us mysterious and subtle. I've found that you can be completely blunt with a man, where saying the same thing to a woman would cause offense and hurt feelings. For example: the other day, 2 of my co-workers were hanging around in my office chatting after a meeting. I said, "Both of you, get out now! I've got work to do". They smiled, saluted, and left. I would never ever say such a thing to a female co-worker, lest I permanently damage the working relationship . It's like speaking a whole different language... Trinity [/QUOTE]
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