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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 595614" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>I slept well. Surprisingly well. But I just woke up to a nasty message on FB from difficult child. Basically saying how can I deny him when he only missed curfew by 5 min and saying that I love younger son more etc. Also what kind of mother does that etc. Basically using his same old tricks and trying to guilt me into feeling bad. But I'm DONE with that! </p><p></p><p>So I replied with : "difficult child - the rules are the rules. Either follow them or those are the consequences. You knew that when you chose to miss curfew. I refuse to allow you to make me feel guilty for the rest of my life. I've helped you NON STOP for a long time now whether you see that or not. And if you have a problem with stepdad address it with him bc I'm not playing that game. OUR rules in OUR house are what they are and are what they have always been. I have been allowing you to come here more to visit but I refuse to enable you. YOU CHOSE to break curfew last night knowing that you wouldn't have a place to stay so don't blame your choice on me. Like I said - I'm done with the guilt. Completely done with it. It's been eating me up for years and I refuse to allow that to happen anymore. You're an adult. Either get some therapy and deal with your feelings or don't. Your choice. But I will not allow you to try to make me feel guilty any longer. I am your mother and I love you and always will but enough is enough. I've done a **** good job at helping you nonstop for a long time now so if you don't realize that and want to hate me - fine."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 595614, member: 12470"] I slept well. Surprisingly well. But I just woke up to a nasty message on FB from difficult child. Basically saying how can I deny him when he only missed curfew by 5 min and saying that I love younger son more etc. Also what kind of mother does that etc. Basically using his same old tricks and trying to guilt me into feeling bad. But I'm DONE with that! So I replied with : "difficult child - the rules are the rules. Either follow them or those are the consequences. You knew that when you chose to miss curfew. I refuse to allow you to make me feel guilty for the rest of my life. I've helped you NON STOP for a long time now whether you see that or not. And if you have a problem with stepdad address it with him bc I'm not playing that game. OUR rules in OUR house are what they are and are what they have always been. I have been allowing you to come here more to visit but I refuse to enable you. YOU CHOSE to break curfew last night knowing that you wouldn't have a place to stay so don't blame your choice on me. Like I said - I'm done with the guilt. Completely done with it. It's been eating me up for years and I refuse to allow that to happen anymore. You're an adult. Either get some therapy and deal with your feelings or don't. Your choice. But I will not allow you to try to make me feel guilty any longer. I am your mother and I love you and always will but enough is enough. I've done a **** good job at helping you nonstop for a long time now so if you don't realize that and want to hate me - fine." [/QUOTE]
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