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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 689308" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am glad for you and for him, especially, Albatross.</p><p>My son believes he has damaged a couple of relationships (not with us) irretrievably. I fear this may be the case. Two families had helped him over the years, a great deal. I believe that seeing this has been helpful to him that people accept one conditionally, and the expectation is respect, consideration and care, and also that one benefit from the association if it is one-sided.</p><p></p><p>These people may have gone beyond what was advisable because there was the implicit expectation that my son benefit from their support, rather than using it to maintain stagnant. I believe he might be seeing that a little bit.</p><p></p><p>Actually, I am glad he has only us left. Mean, I guess, but I craved his caring and his positive presence, I did not know how much. I also felt he did not benefit from people enabling him. It undermined his learning and I had no control.</p><p>Well, he kind of has to now. No free lunch anywhere else. The awareness that everywhere if you do not give back, you wear out your welcome. All the way around, essential learning I think.</p><p></p><p>Thank you everybody for the feedback and the support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 689308, member: 18958"] I am glad for you and for him, especially, Albatross. My son believes he has damaged a couple of relationships (not with us) irretrievably. I fear this may be the case. Two families had helped him over the years, a great deal. I believe that seeing this has been helpful to him that people accept one conditionally, and the expectation is respect, consideration and care, and also that one benefit from the association if it is one-sided. These people may have gone beyond what was advisable because there was the implicit expectation that my son benefit from their support, rather than using it to maintain stagnant. I believe he might be seeing that a little bit. Actually, I am glad he has only us left. Mean, I guess, but I craved his caring and his positive presence, I did not know how much. I also felt he did not benefit from people enabling him. It undermined his learning and I had no control. Well, he kind of has to now. No free lunch anywhere else. The awareness that everywhere if you do not give back, you wear out your welcome. All the way around, essential learning I think. Thank you everybody for the feedback and the support. [/QUOTE]
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