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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 689334" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>None of this is new. Leaving aside all of the children that left parents in the old country (all of my grandparents did), I had a cousin who is maybe ten years older than I (now in his 70's) who left his family, disappearing all together in his 20's.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes people need distance to be themselves. They feel overshadowed, or controlled, or rejected by their birth families. Or criticized. Or fear they will be criticized. And they do not feel strong enough to hold their own. It is not always a fearsome personality diagnosis or attachment disorder.</p><p></p><p>I made distance from my family. I do not feel I suffer from either. I regret deeply I did not feel strong enough to hold my own with my mother. Sometimes it is vulnerability or weakness that keep children away. And there is great love there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 689334, member: 18958"] None of this is new. Leaving aside all of the children that left parents in the old country (all of my grandparents did), I had a cousin who is maybe ten years older than I (now in his 70's) who left his family, disappearing all together in his 20's. Sometimes people need distance to be themselves. They feel overshadowed, or controlled, or rejected by their birth families. Or criticized. Or fear they will be criticized. And they do not feel strong enough to hold their own. It is not always a fearsome personality diagnosis or attachment disorder. I made distance from my family. I do not feel I suffer from either. I regret deeply I did not feel strong enough to hold my own with my mother. Sometimes it is vulnerability or weakness that keep children away. And there is great love there. [/QUOTE]
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