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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 689442" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you, SWOT. I wish this were true. For 8 years there was not a phone call or a visit between me and my mother or sister.</p><p></p><p>They did not call me or write, either, except for an invitation sent to my sister's wedding, which I did not answer. When I look back on it now, I believe I was shunned. I just did not realize it then. I believed it was my choice.</p><p></p><p>In the 5 years before my mother got very ill, and I did take care of her, I saw her maybe 3 times, briefly. I did not go out of my way to see her. I did have regular phone contact several times a week sometimes. And we did live reasonably far away.</p><p></p><p>The reality was that my relationship with my mother was very hard on me. She was stronger than me. I did not thrive close to her. That is a fact. I loved her but I did better far from her. I wish with all my heart it was different but it was not.</p><p></p><p>As I think about it, M is strong like my mother was. And he can have the same dominating anger. But the main difference is huge: M can listen. And M will talk. My mother would just get furious and accusing and mean. And then repress all knowledge that it even happened. Deny it all. To herself and anybody else. There was no way to ever work it out, except eating it.</p><p></p><p>I hope someday that the pain lessens. Thank you SWOT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 689442, member: 18958"] Thank you, SWOT. I wish this were true. For 8 years there was not a phone call or a visit between me and my mother or sister. They did not call me or write, either, except for an invitation sent to my sister's wedding, which I did not answer. When I look back on it now, I believe I was shunned. I just did not realize it then. I believed it was my choice. In the 5 years before my mother got very ill, and I did take care of her, I saw her maybe 3 times, briefly. I did not go out of my way to see her. I did have regular phone contact several times a week sometimes. And we did live reasonably far away. The reality was that my relationship with my mother was very hard on me. She was stronger than me. I did not thrive close to her. That is a fact. I loved her but I did better far from her. I wish with all my heart it was different but it was not. As I think about it, M is strong like my mother was. And he can have the same dominating anger. But the main difference is huge: M can listen. And M will talk. My mother would just get furious and accusing and mean. And then repress all knowledge that it even happened. Deny it all. To herself and anybody else. There was no way to ever work it out, except eating it. I hope someday that the pain lessens. Thank you SWOT. [/QUOTE]
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