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He's been kicked out of the shelter
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 643530" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>So far, a bit of a fuss, a bit of a fight, but in the end after all was calm and we got past the panic he was in because things have gone very badly, we are discussing doing something I'm sure several of you will think is crazy...paying the deposits and 1st month rent for an apartment and yes, possibly co-signing a six month lease. </p><p></p><p>We're apprehensive, no doubt. We've told him flatly, we've been scr__ed before...by HIM...and if he does it this time, we're done. This is his one and only chance. We'll get him settled, but after that rent is on him. He loses his job he better find another even if he's scrubbing toilets in McDonald's. </p><p></p><p>He's rather adamant that he wants to make this work. He wants to keep this job. He wants to work but can't figure out anything else to do because of his hours. He works 9 to whenever (full-time starts next week with the legislative session) and if he cold-cots he will only get 2 hours of sleep or so and that simply won't work. He has no friends. We have no family close. Frankly, we can't think of anything else to do. None of us want him to lose his job. He could go to another town and be homeless there, but he'd have no more resources than he has now. </p><p></p><p>I might add, he did not ask to come home, although I kind of went nuts for a bit and told him flat out it was not going to happen and gave an exhaustive list of reasons why. It wasn't pretty there for a bit and I probably didn't help.</p><p></p><p>He's our son. We are still willing to help him, trying not to enable him, but this really is something that he needs immediately and hasn't got the ability to do himself. The house he was set to stay at apparently is full of meth. That won't do. He actually does manage to stay away from hard drugs and I want that to last. He only stayed there one night and has cold-cotted since. </p><p></p><p>I suspect my wonderful, fantastic husband made the offer to him that we help with the apartment out of love for me. I will never, ever, stop being grateful that I found such a man. </p><p></p><p>It may blow up in our faces. If so, we'll deal. But it truly and honestly is the last time. He screws this up, I swear I am done.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 643530, member: 17309"] So far, a bit of a fuss, a bit of a fight, but in the end after all was calm and we got past the panic he was in because things have gone very badly, we are discussing doing something I'm sure several of you will think is crazy...paying the deposits and 1st month rent for an apartment and yes, possibly co-signing a six month lease. We're apprehensive, no doubt. We've told him flatly, we've been scr__ed before...by HIM...and if he does it this time, we're done. This is his one and only chance. We'll get him settled, but after that rent is on him. He loses his job he better find another even if he's scrubbing toilets in McDonald's. He's rather adamant that he wants to make this work. He wants to keep this job. He wants to work but can't figure out anything else to do because of his hours. He works 9 to whenever (full-time starts next week with the legislative session) and if he cold-cots he will only get 2 hours of sleep or so and that simply won't work. He has no friends. We have no family close. Frankly, we can't think of anything else to do. None of us want him to lose his job. He could go to another town and be homeless there, but he'd have no more resources than he has now. I might add, he did not ask to come home, although I kind of went nuts for a bit and told him flat out it was not going to happen and gave an exhaustive list of reasons why. It wasn't pretty there for a bit and I probably didn't help. He's our son. We are still willing to help him, trying not to enable him, but this really is something that he needs immediately and hasn't got the ability to do himself. The house he was set to stay at apparently is full of meth. That won't do. He actually does manage to stay away from hard drugs and I want that to last. He only stayed there one night and has cold-cotted since. I suspect my wonderful, fantastic husband made the offer to him that we help with the apartment out of love for me. I will never, ever, stop being grateful that I found such a man. It may blow up in our faces. If so, we'll deal. But it truly and honestly is the last time. He screws this up, I swear I am done. [/QUOTE]
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