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He's been kicked out of the shelter
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 643790" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That's okay.</p><p></p><p>It isn't about him. It's about you two. Torture yourselves about a homeless nineteen year old night after night as the winter closes in or cosign for an apartment and stop worrying.</p><p></p><p>Now you have your life back. </p><p></p><p>Next winter you will know better, or your son may have picked up, or a thousand other things might have happened. For now he is safe, and you can live with yourselves and with each other.</p><p></p><p>That is really important. Your marriage is good, you're sleeping well at night, you feel human, again. The tone of your posts is different, now that you know he is safe. You aren't afraid for him, you aren't sick at heart ~ not in the same way.</p><p></p><p>It's worth six month's rent, to have your lives back.</p><p></p><p>When you are further along in the detachment process, things will look very different. Then, you will do something different. For this time in all your lives, this was the right thing to do. Bless yourselves and each other, have many great meals, sleep very well.</p><p></p><p>You've done all you can, all you know to do. </p><p></p><p>You did great.</p><p></p><p>You cannot control one thing about what your difficult child does with this chance. </p><p></p><p>Check into food kitchen schedules. In your last post, food seems to be an issue; because that is so, you both have to educate yourselves around that issue. Then, you need to let go of that whole food thing/job thing/everything.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is on his own.</p><p></p><p>Your job now is to let him do whatever it is he is going to do.</p><p></p><p>Possible for you two to get away? Take a long weekend somewhere warm?</p><p></p><p>That's where you should concentrate your energies, now.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 643790, member: 17461"] That's okay. It isn't about him. It's about you two. Torture yourselves about a homeless nineteen year old night after night as the winter closes in or cosign for an apartment and stop worrying. Now you have your life back. Next winter you will know better, or your son may have picked up, or a thousand other things might have happened. For now he is safe, and you can live with yourselves and with each other. That is really important. Your marriage is good, you're sleeping well at night, you feel human, again. The tone of your posts is different, now that you know he is safe. You aren't afraid for him, you aren't sick at heart ~ not in the same way. It's worth six month's rent, to have your lives back. When you are further along in the detachment process, things will look very different. Then, you will do something different. For this time in all your lives, this was the right thing to do. Bless yourselves and each other, have many great meals, sleep very well. You've done all you can, all you know to do. You did great. You cannot control one thing about what your difficult child does with this chance. Check into food kitchen schedules. In your last post, food seems to be an issue; because that is so, you both have to educate yourselves around that issue. Then, you need to let go of that whole food thing/job thing/everything. difficult child is on his own. Your job now is to let him do whatever it is he is going to do. Possible for you two to get away? Take a long weekend somewhere warm? That's where you should concentrate your energies, now. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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