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He's been kicked out of the shelter
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 643805" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Lil, Jabber, I was thinking if for some reason he does not pay his rent, find another way to pay beyond your personal check. Perhaps open an account in his name that only you two have access to or get money orders and send directly to the landlord in his name. Going this way prevents both a any related credit rating for you, but even if he is screwing up and needs "references" down the road, it will look like he was the one paying and therefore also pushes you away from the edge where what he does (if it's not good) splashes on you. </p><p>You have given him a great opportunity to make it on his own and I dearly hope, even with some natural struggle (the kind we all had in our younger years) he should be OK. Lots of young kids today live a life off living of Romain noodles because they messed up on what they spent their money on - that is the choice and the consequence they learn. </p><p>More and more, young people are unable to afford a car and the payments that go with it, so if he doesn't get a car for a while because you guys used your money helping him in other ways - that is OK too. You have given him what he needs to start to be a man on his own. Sink or swim is up to him. Again I hope you take this in the vane that, it is not known yet, because of the age of your difficult child, whether this is a lifetime situation or an immaturity situation. Right now he has the tools to begin his adult life and even if he chooses to screw it up, he will learn. By our survival, those of us who have seen lean or hard times as young adults are proof of it.</p><p>It has been an extremely emotional holiday season for you two, I too hope that now that both of you can get back into the new groove of the two of you and relax and decompress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 643805, member: 18366"] Lil, Jabber, I was thinking if for some reason he does not pay his rent, find another way to pay beyond your personal check. Perhaps open an account in his name that only you two have access to or get money orders and send directly to the landlord in his name. Going this way prevents both a any related credit rating for you, but even if he is screwing up and needs "references" down the road, it will look like he was the one paying and therefore also pushes you away from the edge where what he does (if it's not good) splashes on you. You have given him a great opportunity to make it on his own and I dearly hope, even with some natural struggle (the kind we all had in our younger years) he should be OK. Lots of young kids today live a life off living of Romain noodles because they messed up on what they spent their money on - that is the choice and the consequence they learn. More and more, young people are unable to afford a car and the payments that go with it, so if he doesn't get a car for a while because you guys used your money helping him in other ways - that is OK too. You have given him what he needs to start to be a man on his own. Sink or swim is up to him. Again I hope you take this in the vane that, it is not known yet, because of the age of your difficult child, whether this is a lifetime situation or an immaturity situation. Right now he has the tools to begin his adult life and even if he chooses to screw it up, he will learn. By our survival, those of us who have seen lean or hard times as young adults are proof of it. It has been an extremely emotional holiday season for you two, I too hope that now that both of you can get back into the new groove of the two of you and relax and decompress. [/QUOTE]
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