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He's coming home! And I'm both ecstatic and apprehensive
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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 742106" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>Remind me again why I agreed to help him get back to Florida? Despite our misgivings we are letting him stay with us for a couple of days until he can get to a friend's house. Two days in and my living room is a shambles because he doesn't understand the concept of picking up after himself. (I've given occasional gentle reminders and let some things slide for the sake of peace and my husband's aversion to stress and drama). Two days in and he's criticizing and correcting everything I say and/or how I say it. Accuses me of trying to start rights (I'm not, that's the last thing I want). I'm trying as hard as I can to not react/overreact because this is a stressful time for him and he's going through withdrawals, and was off his medications for a few days up until last night. But today I overheard him on the phone inviting someone over, without bothering to ask if it was OK. When I asked him, calmly and civilly, who he had invited over he snapped at me "You already told me Danielle could come over, what's your problem?" (Because I should have known he was on the phone with Danielle, right?) I then tried to explain to him how his answer came off sounding and he blew up and not once but twice called me a crazy old lady very loudly and very angrily. The second time I told him he needed to leave and he sat back, folded his arms, and said "Nope." </p><p></p><p>I'm just glad my husband wasn't home, or all hell would have broken lose and it would not have ended well. I will be walking on eggshells tonight and tomorrow, when he is supposed to be going to his friend's. And if that doesn't work out for him, I guess he will be homeless, because this is the last night he will stay in my home under any circumstances or for any reason. Obviously nothing has changed, and it's apparent to me that nothing ever will. I'm done. (And the only reason I'm walking on eggshells is for my husband's sake. I'm not going to risk my marriage for my overgrown bratty toddler of a son.) He even had the gall to ask me to fix him a glass of Coke because he was tired and didn't feel like getting up. I told him my left hip and right knee were hurting and I didn't feel like getting up either. Then to keep drama from erupting my husband, who had just gotten home from work and was trying to relax with a beer, got up and fixed the Coke for him. How does anyone get to the point of feeling so entitled that a 30-year-old in good physical condition would even think to ask someone twice their age and in not so great physical shape to do that for them?????</p><p></p><p>And on top of everything, he's talking about getting a job and saving up for a month or two so he can get back to Chicago. WTF??? That kind of defeats the purpose of me helping him get OUT of Chicago. I already told him...if he turns around and goes back he needn't expect any money or even small favors from me ever again. I AM DONE.</p><p></p><p>But at least I tried.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 742106, member: 22877"] Remind me again why I agreed to help him get back to Florida? Despite our misgivings we are letting him stay with us for a couple of days until he can get to a friend's house. Two days in and my living room is a shambles because he doesn't understand the concept of picking up after himself. (I've given occasional gentle reminders and let some things slide for the sake of peace and my husband's aversion to stress and drama). Two days in and he's criticizing and correcting everything I say and/or how I say it. Accuses me of trying to start rights (I'm not, that's the last thing I want). I'm trying as hard as I can to not react/overreact because this is a stressful time for him and he's going through withdrawals, and was off his medications for a few days up until last night. But today I overheard him on the phone inviting someone over, without bothering to ask if it was OK. When I asked him, calmly and civilly, who he had invited over he snapped at me "You already told me Danielle could come over, what's your problem?" (Because I should have known he was on the phone with Danielle, right?) I then tried to explain to him how his answer came off sounding and he blew up and not once but twice called me a crazy old lady very loudly and very angrily. The second time I told him he needed to leave and he sat back, folded his arms, and said "Nope." I'm just glad my husband wasn't home, or all hell would have broken lose and it would not have ended well. I will be walking on eggshells tonight and tomorrow, when he is supposed to be going to his friend's. And if that doesn't work out for him, I guess he will be homeless, because this is the last night he will stay in my home under any circumstances or for any reason. Obviously nothing has changed, and it's apparent to me that nothing ever will. I'm done. (And the only reason I'm walking on eggshells is for my husband's sake. I'm not going to risk my marriage for my overgrown bratty toddler of a son.) He even had the gall to ask me to fix him a glass of Coke because he was tired and didn't feel like getting up. I told him my left hip and right knee were hurting and I didn't feel like getting up either. Then to keep drama from erupting my husband, who had just gotten home from work and was trying to relax with a beer, got up and fixed the Coke for him. How does anyone get to the point of feeling so entitled that a 30-year-old in good physical condition would even think to ask someone twice their age and in not so great physical shape to do that for them????? And on top of everything, he's talking about getting a job and saving up for a month or two so he can get back to Chicago. WTF??? That kind of defeats the purpose of me helping him get OUT of Chicago. I already told him...if he turns around and goes back he needn't expect any money or even small favors from me ever again. I AM DONE. But at least I tried. [/QUOTE]
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