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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 268794" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am glad he is taking steps to move forward with his life, and that he has been stable for quite a while. </p><p></p><p>As for how your husband reacts, you may need to do what my mother does. She has told us all, in no uncertain terms, that my father's reactions to things are NOT hers, and unless she ALSO tells us the same thing, we are to NOT assume she feels the way he does.</p><p></p><p>This came about as I gradually got older and told her things I didn't do or turned down because things my father said (like getting in to a SUPERB college and having my Gma offer to pay for all of it - and then not telling anyone and going to a different school because my dad's reaction was so overt he top negative). My bro has things also along this line. </p><p></p><p>So if your husband says something bad, just assure your son YOU feel differently and wish him well and are happy to provide advice, etc... as YOU are comfortable. It is often helpful for kids to learn that parents are not a unit - they are a team of different people with different ideas. And sometimes they work better independently. Esp if one parent is being dysfunctional.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 268794, member: 1233"] I am glad he is taking steps to move forward with his life, and that he has been stable for quite a while. As for how your husband reacts, you may need to do what my mother does. She has told us all, in no uncertain terms, that my father's reactions to things are NOT hers, and unless she ALSO tells us the same thing, we are to NOT assume she feels the way he does. This came about as I gradually got older and told her things I didn't do or turned down because things my father said (like getting in to a SUPERB college and having my Gma offer to pay for all of it - and then not telling anyone and going to a different school because my dad's reaction was so overt he top negative). My bro has things also along this line. So if your husband says something bad, just assure your son YOU feel differently and wish him well and are happy to provide advice, etc... as YOU are comfortable. It is often helpful for kids to learn that parents are not a unit - they are a team of different people with different ideas. And sometimes they work better independently. Esp if one parent is being dysfunctional. [/QUOTE]
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