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He's on his way home---some questions
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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 64352" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>I know you are scared and excited all at the same time!</p><p></p><p>I only have one suggestion ~</p><p></p><p>Discuss your plans for handling your son's money with him BEFORE he comes home.</p><p></p><p>He has more than likely counted every penny and already has plans for spending it.</p><p></p><p> In his mind he earned the money thru gifts and what nots.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying for you not to keep the money, just that I would make certain he understood what was going to happen with the money.</p><p></p><p>Most of our fallouts (my son is so much like yours) were about what he thought was his and the fact that he had to earn our trust again.</p><p></p><p>Looking back, I tried it both ways. I tried to make him understand he had broken my trust and had to earn it back, he thought he had paid for the broken trust by being in (jail,Residential Treatment Center (RTC),rehab)and we knocked heads.</p><p></p><p>I also tried to wipe the slate clean ~ he ran with the freedom!</p><p></p><p>You have done so well keeping on top of everything. I hope this all works out. If for some reason it does not ~ You with out a doubt did all you could to prepare him for his future. He has all the tools he needs to beat his problems, it is up to him to make the right choices.</p><p></p><p>Enjoy him when he comes home. But continue to be strong and wise as you are now.</p><p></p><p>Traci</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 64352, member: 2389"] I know you are scared and excited all at the same time! I only have one suggestion ~ Discuss your plans for handling your son's money with him BEFORE he comes home. He has more than likely counted every penny and already has plans for spending it. In his mind he earned the money thru gifts and what nots. I am not saying for you not to keep the money, just that I would make certain he understood what was going to happen with the money. Most of our fallouts (my son is so much like yours) were about what he thought was his and the fact that he had to earn our trust again. Looking back, I tried it both ways. I tried to make him understand he had broken my trust and had to earn it back, he thought he had paid for the broken trust by being in (jail,Residential Treatment Center (RTC),rehab)and we knocked heads. I also tried to wipe the slate clean ~ he ran with the freedom! You have done so well keeping on top of everything. I hope this all works out. If for some reason it does not ~ You with out a doubt did all you could to prepare him for his future. He has all the tools he needs to beat his problems, it is up to him to make the right choices. Enjoy him when he comes home. But continue to be strong and wise as you are now. Traci [/QUOTE]
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