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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 683161" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I agree that she cannot have it both ways, and neither can the court system. In other words, if the court states that you have to allow her in your house bc she is too disabled to take care of yourself, then you should have legal guardianship. Then she would not make choices on her mental/physical care, her SSI, etc - you would.</p><p></p><p>If the court doesn't think she needs a guardian, then there is no reason you should not be able to legally evict her. See where I am going?</p><p></p><p>As far as "diagnosis," does she have a formal, on paper, mental and physical diagnosis that she is disabled? If not, I would try to evict her on my own without an attorney according to the laws of your state. I agree that every time she does anything that warrants police intervention, you don't hesitate to call and file a report. Even screaming and cursing you is enough if she cannot control herself. Definitely any thefts, threats (whether or not you think she is sincere), damage to your home/property, etc. </p><p></p><p>I don't know your daughter but I would start with her - these are the conditions to live in our home. If you cannot live within those conditions, you must leave. Let her rant and rave, and start the ball rolling.</p><p></p><p>My daughter has Borderline (BPD) and I cannot imagine her in my home. Luckily, she is on disability. Like your daughter, she refuses inpatient treatment (although it was recommended) and she has other physical issues as well as a drug addiction she refuses to admit or do anything about. We almost let her move back in after a really bad accident that left her physically disabled on top of her mental disability. However, when she refused drug and psychiatric help, we said no - those were the conditions for her to live in my home and me feel even a slight sense of peace with her being here. I would be exactly where you are right now had we let her move in. Actually, worse bc she likes to harm herself when she doesn't get her way, destroy hers and other people's property in fits, and I would have gone crazy searching the house for drugs.</p><p></p><p>Keep getting other opinions. Keep trying. Keep reporting her to the police. And document everything she says and does/doesn't do to help you when you get a judge.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 683161, member: 19905"] I agree that she cannot have it both ways, and neither can the court system. In other words, if the court states that you have to allow her in your house bc she is too disabled to take care of yourself, then you should have legal guardianship. Then she would not make choices on her mental/physical care, her SSI, etc - you would. If the court doesn't think she needs a guardian, then there is no reason you should not be able to legally evict her. See where I am going? As far as "diagnosis," does she have a formal, on paper, mental and physical diagnosis that she is disabled? If not, I would try to evict her on my own without an attorney according to the laws of your state. I agree that every time she does anything that warrants police intervention, you don't hesitate to call and file a report. Even screaming and cursing you is enough if she cannot control herself. Definitely any thefts, threats (whether or not you think she is sincere), damage to your home/property, etc. I don't know your daughter but I would start with her - these are the conditions to live in our home. If you cannot live within those conditions, you must leave. Let her rant and rave, and start the ball rolling. My daughter has Borderline (BPD) and I cannot imagine her in my home. Luckily, she is on disability. Like your daughter, she refuses inpatient treatment (although it was recommended) and she has other physical issues as well as a drug addiction she refuses to admit or do anything about. We almost let her move back in after a really bad accident that left her physically disabled on top of her mental disability. However, when she refused drug and psychiatric help, we said no - those were the conditions for her to live in my home and me feel even a slight sense of peace with her being here. I would be exactly where you are right now had we let her move in. Actually, worse bc she likes to harm herself when she doesn't get her way, destroy hers and other people's property in fits, and I would have gone crazy searching the house for drugs. Keep getting other opinions. Keep trying. Keep reporting her to the police. And document everything she says and does/doesn't do to help you when you get a judge. [/QUOTE]
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