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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 683175" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I think the law varies state to state on recording. I know in my state, as long as one person in the conversation (you) knows it is being recorded, it is admissible. But if you tap your phone and record two people who have no idea that the device is on the phone, it isn't admissible. That is my state law on audio recording. I would check into it.</p><p></p><p>In my state, handwritten documentation (like what you are doing) is also admissible. It is also invaluable when giving dates and details about specific issues. After awhile, there are so many they blur together and you cannot recall specifics. You don't want to be vague about what is happening.</p><p></p><p>I would research everything I could about MY rights as a homeowner with an unwanted tenant in your residence. I would want to know how long she has to be absent before you could consider her "moved out." For instance, if she shacked up with her boyfriend for a month, blew up and tried to come home, would she be legally considered moved? What is the length of time, etc? And what exactly gives her tenant rights' and what they are? You might be surprised at what you could learn from some research. I would also research an attorney who specializes in those kinds of laws. If you went through the eviction process, I would think she would have to have an attorney to fight it. How would she pay for that? She might get a court appointed counsel, but it doesn't sound like she could pay for it on her own.</p><p></p><p>It sounds to me like, just from what you've said, that she COULD get disability, subsidized housing, food stamps, etc. But instead, she would rather remain in your home and let you foot all of the bills and tolerate her abuse. Who knows why some adult children do this? My daughter is the same - she will accept the help she wants, get handouts from others for the things that would be too much of an inconvenience for her. If she doesn't want to fill out the form and go to the appointment, she will find someone who will help her out, even if it is only temporary. </p><p></p><p>At least you aren't in denial. I know that I would probably also remove some of her conveniences. Chang the wifi password. You pay for the cell phone? Shut it off. I would "take care of her stuff" if she refused to clean it up, and I would lock her out of any areas of the house you don't want her in. She isn't entitled to access to the whole house, including your work/sleeping area.</p><p></p><p>Just some thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 683175, member: 19905"] I think the law varies state to state on recording. I know in my state, as long as one person in the conversation (you) knows it is being recorded, it is admissible. But if you tap your phone and record two people who have no idea that the device is on the phone, it isn't admissible. That is my state law on audio recording. I would check into it. In my state, handwritten documentation (like what you are doing) is also admissible. It is also invaluable when giving dates and details about specific issues. After awhile, there are so many they blur together and you cannot recall specifics. You don't want to be vague about what is happening. I would research everything I could about MY rights as a homeowner with an unwanted tenant in your residence. I would want to know how long she has to be absent before you could consider her "moved out." For instance, if she shacked up with her boyfriend for a month, blew up and tried to come home, would she be legally considered moved? What is the length of time, etc? And what exactly gives her tenant rights' and what they are? You might be surprised at what you could learn from some research. I would also research an attorney who specializes in those kinds of laws. If you went through the eviction process, I would think she would have to have an attorney to fight it. How would she pay for that? She might get a court appointed counsel, but it doesn't sound like she could pay for it on her own. It sounds to me like, just from what you've said, that she COULD get disability, subsidized housing, food stamps, etc. But instead, she would rather remain in your home and let you foot all of the bills and tolerate her abuse. Who knows why some adult children do this? My daughter is the same - she will accept the help she wants, get handouts from others for the things that would be too much of an inconvenience for her. If she doesn't want to fill out the form and go to the appointment, she will find someone who will help her out, even if it is only temporary. At least you aren't in denial. I know that I would probably also remove some of her conveniences. Chang the wifi password. You pay for the cell phone? Shut it off. I would "take care of her stuff" if she refused to clean it up, and I would lock her out of any areas of the house you don't want her in. She isn't entitled to access to the whole house, including your work/sleeping area. Just some thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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