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<blockquote data-quote="Jim" data-source="post: 511992" data-attributes="member: 14074"><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">First Buddy, Thank you so much for your helpful insight, my son thank the Lord has not shown any suicidal tendencies and tells me he would never hurt himself, His neuropsychologist told us to be very careful considering boarding school as he does not respond well to stress and the sudden onset of severe stress could be disastrous for him regardless if he claims he would never hurt himself. Also he would simply say I am not going and unless a court mandated it we can't make him go.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">To answer your questions:</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">Our main problem is he is so very smart his IQ is 130, he tells the doctors what they want to hear and is the most blatant brutally honest person I have ever met, ask him why he doesn't do his school work, he will say "because I'm lazy" why don't you go to school "because I don't want to" he can be getting straight F's and I will ride him about it and two weeks before grades come out he will do all his work and extra credit get an A+ on everything and bring his final grade up to a B, I monitor his grades and attendance daily, I see 20 F's on assignments because he did not turn in the work, he turns in a paper and gets an A+ and thats in every subject, he blows though algebra 2 and geometry, like you or I reciting our 5 grade times table. Another problem is he is 17 so I cant make him do anything, we would enroll him in collage early if we could, but based on his attendance record and not wanting to go our hands are tied, I do feel he is not getting enough of the proper stimulation, but if I handed him a book on astrophysics, he would just toss it on his dresser. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">When I tell him he is messing up, he says "yeah I know" and says he wants to do better, if we tell him not to leave he will just walk out the door, we have tried praising his good deeds, mild short punishment, extreme lengthy punishment.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">As far as school goes he has always been like this, his mantra from birth has been I know what's best for me, yet he has never flunked a grade, blows through all the state tests with well above average scores.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">As I type this I am astonished at what I am describing, if you are not living in it, it just seams unbelievable, when my wife used to describe this behavior to doctors they would look at her like shes nuts, the school principle says "just take away his x-box and phone he will straighten right up" and asserts we are bad parents. We have had the school police come and drag him out of bed and take him to school, then second period comes around and he ditches the rest of the day, the school tells me if we don't make him go they will fine and or put me in jail.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">Atypical antipsychotics (risperdal, seroquel) unless you are schizophrenic can be deadly, although haldol is a typical antipsychotic, the majority of the cases I see where these drugs are involved have dire outcomes, if you have ever been to a nursing home and seen folks slumped over in their chairs thats the good old Ativan/Haldol cocktail at work, the risks of the medications far outweighs the desired result of simply "calming" a patient. A nurse told me antipsychotics will make an insane person sane and a sane person insane, a doctor who is a world renowned specialist in motor dysfunctions said if you ever want to talk to God or the Devil 10mg daily of Haloperidol will do the trick, my family has a history of Parkinson's antipsychotics induce Parkinson's.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">You were probably on 5-10mg of paxil, I have seen cases of 25mg a day patients, curled up in the fetal position withering in agony from going with out it for 2 days, you have to be weened off of it.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">My son like I mentioned is very health conscience strange as that sounds, wont touch fried foods, sodas, loves all vegetables, takes vitamins, runs daily works out daily, protein shakes/bars, he has a gym membership but chooses to break into the school gym at night to work out.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">To you and I Buddy its insanity, he will go into the store with 100 bucks in his pocket and steal a 2 dollar item, has left restaurants without paying, yet his mother gave him the money to pay for his meal.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">I am ordering the books you mentioned and like I said my coping with this is secondary to wanting a productive life for my soon to be adult child.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">Thank You,</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">jim</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jim, post: 511992, member: 14074"] [COLOR=#222222][FONT=Times]First Buddy, Thank you so much for your helpful insight, my son thank the Lord has not shown any suicidal tendencies and tells me he would never hurt himself, His neuropsychologist told us to be very careful considering boarding school as he does not respond well to stress and the sudden onset of severe stress could be disastrous for him regardless if he claims he would never hurt himself. Also he would simply say I am not going and unless a court mandated it we can't make him go. To answer your questions: Our main problem is he is so very smart his IQ is 130, he tells the doctors what they want to hear and is the most blatant brutally honest person I have ever met, ask him why he doesn't do his school work, he will say "because I'm lazy" why don't you go to school "because I don't want to" he can be getting straight F's and I will ride him about it and two weeks before grades come out he will do all his work and extra credit get an A+ on everything and bring his final grade up to a B, I monitor his grades and attendance daily, I see 20 F's on assignments because he did not turn in the work, he turns in a paper and gets an A+ and thats in every subject, he blows though algebra 2 and geometry, like you or I reciting our 5 grade times table. Another problem is he is 17 so I cant make him do anything, we would enroll him in collage early if we could, but based on his attendance record and not wanting to go our hands are tied, I do feel he is not getting enough of the proper stimulation, but if I handed him a book on astrophysics, he would just toss it on his dresser. When I tell him he is messing up, he says "yeah I know" and says he wants to do better, if we tell him not to leave he will just walk out the door, we have tried praising his good deeds, mild short punishment, extreme lengthy punishment. As far as school goes he has always been like this, his mantra from birth has been I know what's best for me, yet he has never flunked a grade, blows through all the state tests with well above average scores. As I type this I am astonished at what I am describing, if you are not living in it, it just seams unbelievable, when my wife used to describe this behavior to doctors they would look at her like shes nuts, the school principle says "just take away his x-box and phone he will straighten right up" and asserts we are bad parents. We have had the school police come and drag him out of bed and take him to school, then second period comes around and he ditches the rest of the day, the school tells me if we don't make him go they will fine and or put me in jail. Atypical antipsychotics (risperdal, seroquel) unless you are schizophrenic can be deadly, although haldol is a typical antipsychotic, the majority of the cases I see where these drugs are involved have dire outcomes, if you have ever been to a nursing home and seen folks slumped over in their chairs thats the good old Ativan/Haldol cocktail at work, the risks of the medications far outweighs the desired result of simply "calming" a patient. A nurse told me antipsychotics will make an insane person sane and a sane person insane, a doctor who is a world renowned specialist in motor dysfunctions said if you ever want to talk to God or the Devil 10mg daily of Haloperidol will do the trick, my family has a history of Parkinson's antipsychotics induce Parkinson's. You were probably on 5-10mg of paxil, I have seen cases of 25mg a day patients, curled up in the fetal position withering in agony from going with out it for 2 days, you have to be weened off of it. My son like I mentioned is very health conscience strange as that sounds, wont touch fried foods, sodas, loves all vegetables, takes vitamins, runs daily works out daily, protein shakes/bars, he has a gym membership but chooses to break into the school gym at night to work out. To you and I Buddy its insanity, he will go into the store with 100 bucks in his pocket and steal a 2 dollar item, has left restaurants without paying, yet his mother gave him the money to pay for his meal. I am ordering the books you mentioned and like I said my coping with this is secondary to wanting a productive life for my soon to be adult child. Thank You, jim[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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