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<blockquote data-quote="BTDT" data-source="post: 11871" data-attributes="member: 3401"><p>Welcome Gail,</p><p></p><p>If you are satisfied that medications are right (and you don't need to use time-release), I would suggest that it's one of several things or all. Either your child lacks motivation, lacks test-taking and staying-on-task skills, or lacks respect for his teacher. If she does not have the skill to capture his attention, he probably doesn't respect her enough to perform for her.</p><p></p><p>Obviously he has a nice relationship with you, or he would not work well for you. So I may check out the class and see if you can tell what's going on. Ask what exactly she's seeing. What is he doing instead of his work? Where does he sit? </p><p></p><p>What does she do when he is not on task. You may find something surprising like she's embarrassing him somehow and therefore he despises her. Wouldn't be the first time. Make certain that she is not making comments about his having ADHD before the class. Don't be accusatory. Just observe.</p><p></p><p>I'd suggest getting him checked at Sylvan or Kumon depending on his needs. They can determine what he needs to learn. He may just need some skills. Perhaps he finds the other students too distracting. Or he needs to sit nearer the teacher. Can he have headphones during tests? All this can be handled in an IEP. </p><p></p><p>I would ask the teacher to complete an observation form that you can give your child's dr. Just in case you suspect the medications may need a tweak. That's a nice way to ask for her observations without her feeling cornered.</p><p></p><p>Motivation is always a huge challenge with a child with ADHD, huge. I cannot overemphasize the benefit of using a reward system for rewarding good handwriting, good homework and classwork completion, etc. Check the back pack each day. </p><p></p><p>I always required my child to rewrite papers messily written at school, for homework. That stopped that really fast. And perhaps he may have a dessert after dinner if he brings neater handwriting.</p><p></p><p>Just try telling him, "be sure you keep that handwriting neat today because you probably rather play longer when you get home, than to rewrite it". That oughta do it. And "What do you want for your dessert if you're handwriting is neat all day, cookies or cake?" or popocorn or pretzels. You know his hot buttons. Push 'em.</p><p></p><p>If he brings home messy writing, you may prefer to try this instead. Well, looks like tonight we need to practice writing because it seems you've forgotten some skills. So here, write me two lines each of the alphabet from margin to margin. And let me know when you're ready for me to check. And leave the room. (Peek to watch him pick up his jaw!)</p><p></p><p>One more idea. Obviously he likes your company. So maybe you say, "Please bring home neat writing today so can sit together and have hot chocolate for 20 minutes before we start homework. Otherwise we need that time for you to rewrite it."</p><p></p><p>School can be a winning game or a losing pit of misery. See if you can play up the winning part. </p><p></p><p>Just remember to reward good behavior (your one-on-one time is a reward). Your child needs reward more than you know.</p><p></p><p>Hope you find something here useful. You can do this :smile:</p><p></p><p>been there done that</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BTDT, post: 11871, member: 3401"] Welcome Gail, If you are satisfied that medications are right (and you don't need to use time-release), I would suggest that it's one of several things or all. Either your child lacks motivation, lacks test-taking and staying-on-task skills, or lacks respect for his teacher. If she does not have the skill to capture his attention, he probably doesn't respect her enough to perform for her. Obviously he has a nice relationship with you, or he would not work well for you. So I may check out the class and see if you can tell what's going on. Ask what exactly she's seeing. What is he doing instead of his work? Where does he sit? What does she do when he is not on task. You may find something surprising like she's embarrassing him somehow and therefore he despises her. Wouldn't be the first time. Make certain that she is not making comments about his having ADHD before the class. Don't be accusatory. Just observe. I'd suggest getting him checked at Sylvan or Kumon depending on his needs. They can determine what he needs to learn. He may just need some skills. Perhaps he finds the other students too distracting. Or he needs to sit nearer the teacher. Can he have headphones during tests? All this can be handled in an IEP. I would ask the teacher to complete an observation form that you can give your child's dr. Just in case you suspect the medications may need a tweak. That's a nice way to ask for her observations without her feeling cornered. Motivation is always a huge challenge with a child with ADHD, huge. I cannot overemphasize the benefit of using a reward system for rewarding good handwriting, good homework and classwork completion, etc. Check the back pack each day. I always required my child to rewrite papers messily written at school, for homework. That stopped that really fast. And perhaps he may have a dessert after dinner if he brings neater handwriting. Just try telling him, "be sure you keep that handwriting neat today because you probably rather play longer when you get home, than to rewrite it". That oughta do it. And "What do you want for your dessert if you're handwriting is neat all day, cookies or cake?" or popocorn or pretzels. You know his hot buttons. Push 'em. If he brings home messy writing, you may prefer to try this instead. Well, looks like tonight we need to practice writing because it seems you've forgotten some skills. So here, write me two lines each of the alphabet from margin to margin. And let me know when you're ready for me to check. And leave the room. (Peek to watch him pick up his jaw!) One more idea. Obviously he likes your company. So maybe you say, "Please bring home neat writing today so can sit together and have hot chocolate for 20 minutes before we start homework. Otherwise we need that time for you to rewrite it." School can be a winning game or a losing pit of misery. See if you can play up the winning part. Just remember to reward good behavior (your one-on-one time is a reward). Your child needs reward more than you know. Hope you find something here useful. You can do this [img]:smile:[/img] been there done that [/QUOTE]
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