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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 409335" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Kat, and welcome! You are definitely not the worst mom in the world (I am).</p><p></p><p>I also took Halloween away from my son - for 3 years running. I have to admit, more than a decade later, I regret it, but I'm getting old and find myself getting ridiculously maudlin at times. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> At the time I took those days away from him? I was at my complete wits end and was still working under the (false, in my son's case) assumption that loss of privileges would have an impact on him. My kid was also grounded for the majority of his life from age 6 to 9. Hindsight being 20/20, I would have tried something different. Not sure what - but if you are doing something consistently and there is not a change in behavior, it's time to get creative and try something different. </p><p></p><p>Can you tell us how old he is? Does he have any "diagnosis"? How does he do in school, besides the behavior problems? Any family history of mood disorders/alcoholism/drug use/suicide? What kinds of evaluations has he had? How was his early development? Has the therapist adjusted his/her suggestions as he/she has seen prior suggestions not work? If the psychiatrist is just feeding into his litany of excuses, it may be time to find a new one. The last thing you need is someone reinforcing the "rules-don't-apply-to-me" mentality that a lot of our kids have.</p><p></p><p>Did he say why he took the DS? Did the visit with- the officer make much of an impact?</p><p></p><p>No judgment here. I think most of us have gotten those goofy looks from parents/family members who just don't grasp the concept of a kid who does not respond to more traditional parenting strategies. We know how you're feeling - you are most certainly not alone. Again, welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 409335, member: 8"] Hi Kat, and welcome! You are definitely not the worst mom in the world (I am). I also took Halloween away from my son - for 3 years running. I have to admit, more than a decade later, I regret it, but I'm getting old and find myself getting ridiculously maudlin at times. :winking: At the time I took those days away from him? I was at my complete wits end and was still working under the (false, in my son's case) assumption that loss of privileges would have an impact on him. My kid was also grounded for the majority of his life from age 6 to 9. Hindsight being 20/20, I would have tried something different. Not sure what - but if you are doing something consistently and there is not a change in behavior, it's time to get creative and try something different. Can you tell us how old he is? Does he have any "diagnosis"? How does he do in school, besides the behavior problems? Any family history of mood disorders/alcoholism/drug use/suicide? What kinds of evaluations has he had? How was his early development? Has the therapist adjusted his/her suggestions as he/she has seen prior suggestions not work? If the psychiatrist is just feeding into his litany of excuses, it may be time to find a new one. The last thing you need is someone reinforcing the "rules-don't-apply-to-me" mentality that a lot of our kids have. Did he say why he took the DS? Did the visit with- the officer make much of an impact? No judgment here. I think most of us have gotten those goofy looks from parents/family members who just don't grasp the concept of a kid who does not respond to more traditional parenting strategies. We know how you're feeling - you are most certainly not alone. Again, welcome! [/QUOTE]
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