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hi - New Here, son just put in Residential Treatment Center (RTC), will things ever get better?
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 675505" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi PM, welcome to the CD forum, so sorry for your need to be here. It is tough to see our kids go down this road.</p><p></p><p> Oh boy Pisces, I have heard this many times, from my two. It is the guilt card, and our kids know how to play this one. We are only human, and do the best jobs we can.</p><p>Please do not let this get to you. It is not fair, or correct.</p><p> This is a good thing, at least he will be looked after, and hopefully accept the help he needs.</p><p> This happened to my two as well, the eldest started pot around this time, I am not sure about my #3, but possibly....so, stuck at 13....</p><p> I think this happens to many of our young teens, especially if they dabble with pot.</p><p> My girls are the same. I found out #3 was not only using pot, but also crack. She insisted for a long while that it was pot, but the personality changes and mood swings suggested otherwise. I am convinced that todays pot is much stronger, or even mixed with other substances. It smells stronger, and the kids who smoke, seem to be easily addicted. The change in kids who use, <em>are enormous</em>. My eldest is on meth. It is rampant here in the islands. Meth addicts have the symptoms you are describing. My brother lives in a small town on the East Coast. There is much in the news about heroin use there,it is an epidemic in the high schools. No one would have thought in a million years, that these small towns would be seeing such a problem with their youth. It is frightening.</p><p>Drug use can mimic mental illness. There are drugs out there, that are not easily detected in tests. Do you think your son has used other drugs besides pot? That would explain his personality change, and his acting out at 17, more like 13, also behaving as if he is mentally ill. It is hard to pinpoint anything, until he is clean.</p><p> There is so much more discovery on head injury now. I wonder, too if something was missed. Either way, using drugs certainly would not help matters.</p><p> I am sorry Pisces, this is hard for a mom to hear. But, perhaps it will be a<em> true rescue</em>, they will <em>rescue him from this path</em>?</p><p> This is so true, your son is young, hopefully he will respond to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). In the meantime, it is important for you to take very good care of yourself, strengthen and rebuild, in the face of this. It is good that your son is where he is, and has the option for treatment. Here, we understand the need for us, as parents to get help also, because we start to feel like we are going down, entangled emotionally with our d cs choices. It is very hard on our hearts. We need to feel what we feel, then take steps to work at feeling better.</p><p>There is group support, al anon, nar anon, lots of books out there to help. Posting here helps too.</p><p> It is not quite the subject for me either, Pisces, at coffee break. I know how you feel. You are here, and you have found us, you are not alone, there are many others here who are going through a similar journey, different stages. We help one another.</p><p>Keep sharing and posting, it really helps.</p><p> I echo this sentiment, too Pisces. It is hard to bare this during the Holidays. It is a good thing your son is in treatment. He is safe.</p><p>You have great value and your life has meaning too. Work at building yourself up. Stay in touch with us, we care about you and your son.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you peace.</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 675505, member: 19522"] Hi PM, welcome to the CD forum, so sorry for your need to be here. It is tough to see our kids go down this road. Oh boy Pisces, I have heard this many times, from my two. It is the guilt card, and our kids know how to play this one. We are only human, and do the best jobs we can. Please do not let this get to you. It is not fair, or correct. This is a good thing, at least he will be looked after, and hopefully accept the help he needs. This happened to my two as well, the eldest started pot around this time, I am not sure about my #3, but possibly....so, stuck at 13.... I think this happens to many of our young teens, especially if they dabble with pot. My girls are the same. I found out #3 was not only using pot, but also crack. She insisted for a long while that it was pot, but the personality changes and mood swings suggested otherwise. I am convinced that todays pot is much stronger, or even mixed with other substances. It smells stronger, and the kids who smoke, seem to be easily addicted. The change in kids who use, [I]are enormous[/I]. My eldest is on meth. It is rampant here in the islands. Meth addicts have the symptoms you are describing. My brother lives in a small town on the East Coast. There is much in the news about heroin use there,it is an epidemic in the high schools. No one would have thought in a million years, that these small towns would be seeing such a problem with their youth. It is frightening. Drug use can mimic mental illness. There are drugs out there, that are not easily detected in tests. Do you think your son has used other drugs besides pot? That would explain his personality change, and his acting out at 17, more like 13, also behaving as if he is mentally ill. It is hard to pinpoint anything, until he is clean. There is so much more discovery on head injury now. I wonder, too if something was missed. Either way, using drugs certainly would not help matters. I am sorry Pisces, this is hard for a mom to hear. But, perhaps it will be a[I] true rescue[/I], they will [I]rescue him from this path[/I]? This is so true, your son is young, hopefully he will respond to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). In the meantime, it is important for you to take very good care of yourself, strengthen and rebuild, in the face of this. It is good that your son is where he is, and has the option for treatment. Here, we understand the need for us, as parents to get help also, because we start to feel like we are going down, entangled emotionally with our d cs choices. It is very hard on our hearts. We need to feel what we feel, then take steps to work at feeling better. There is group support, al anon, nar anon, lots of books out there to help. Posting here helps too. It is not quite the subject for me either, Pisces, at coffee break. I know how you feel. You are here, and you have found us, you are not alone, there are many others here who are going through a similar journey, different stages. We help one another. Keep sharing and posting, it really helps. I echo this sentiment, too Pisces. It is hard to bare this during the Holidays. It is a good thing your son is in treatment. He is safe. You have great value and your life has meaning too. Work at building yourself up. Stay in touch with us, we care about you and your son. Wishing you peace. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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