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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 747983" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>From what you have said It definitely sounds like your boys have depression. It may manifest it's self differently in each of them. If your older son feels better smoking then I sure he is wondering why he should stop. He needs to realize that his life is not what he wants it to be and he can use a different drug ,that won't effect his motivation like pot does, to help him feel better. The important thing is HE needs to realize it. Sounds like your husband must be giving your older son a lot of money if he can buy land. I agree with Tried out that if he can live without working why work? Some people are more motivated than others and of course smoking weed takes away a lot of people's motivation. What does your ex husband think he son should be doing? </p><p> With regards to your younger son he may have some depression brought on by his situation. The pressure of school can be enormous and the thought of working so hard in high school only to get out and then have the pressure of college is just to much for some kids. Plus it is always scary to start something new. I worked at a University for a long time and found that for some kids having a gap year like they do in Europe before starting college is a good thing. If he has something he is interested in could he volunteer ? As you know not all medications work for everyone he may need to try something else if it doesn't start working soon. Remember to take care of yourself, you being healthy will only help your children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 747983, member: 23328"] From what you have said It definitely sounds like your boys have depression. It may manifest it's self differently in each of them. If your older son feels better smoking then I sure he is wondering why he should stop. He needs to realize that his life is not what he wants it to be and he can use a different drug ,that won't effect his motivation like pot does, to help him feel better. The important thing is HE needs to realize it. Sounds like your husband must be giving your older son a lot of money if he can buy land. I agree with Tried out that if he can live without working why work? Some people are more motivated than others and of course smoking weed takes away a lot of people's motivation. What does your ex husband think he son should be doing? With regards to your younger son he may have some depression brought on by his situation. The pressure of school can be enormous and the thought of working so hard in high school only to get out and then have the pressure of college is just to much for some kids. Plus it is always scary to start something new. I worked at a University for a long time and found that for some kids having a gap year like they do in Europe before starting college is a good thing. If he has something he is interested in could he volunteer ? As you know not all medications work for everyone he may need to try something else if it doesn't start working soon. Remember to take care of yourself, you being healthy will only help your children. [/QUOTE]
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