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<blockquote data-quote="michelenicole" data-source="post: 523204" data-attributes="member: 14386"><p>Let's see if I an answer all of your questions and give more background information.</p><p></p><p>His background. At the end of May (last year), both of my step children were removed from their mother's care because she was locking her kids in a bedroom and leaving them there for extended periods of time. She was locking them in the bedroom by tieing a rope from the door knob to the stair banister. When the police found the children on that particular night, she had the children locked in the bedroom and was over at a neighbor's apartment. Witnesses said the police observed no activity at her apartment for at least 45 minutes before they got involved by knocking on the neighbor's door. She was not sent to jail, but has been found guilty of neglect in civil court. When the children first came to live here, the oldest one was peeing on bedding, furniture, toys in the bedroom, and both had anxiety about closing the bedroom door. We still can't close bedroom doors here. Both children were also not on a routine for meals and bedtime - they slept whenever and ate whenever, mostly junk food. We have trouble getting them to eat anything but McDonald's.</p><p></p><p>Both receive speech therapy and have since August. They both just started seeing an occupational therapist a few weeks ago. They both go to a head start child care facility (what I am referring to as "school"), and these services happen through the head start center. The oldest one has been having problems, mostly at school, the entire time he's been living here. I tried and tried to get my husband to do something about it, but my husband didn't see the problems until we received a report from daycare that the child was threatening to shoot his teachers and attempted to stab a teacher in the arm. In August, he hit a pregnant teacher so hard in the stomach that she threw up. He has these "meltdowns" at daycare for not much of a reason at all, which causes him to throw items and furniture, physically assault other children, physically assault teachers, rip posters off the walls, etc. They have a difficult time getting him to calm down, but once he's calm, he's fine until the next "meltdown" happens. At home, he's constantly instigating trouble with my five-year-old by picking on him and arguing with him until my five-year-old reacts (usually through hitting), and he's quick to "tattle tell" after the reaction. He lies constantly; even if you see him do something, he'll lie to you about doing it. Just this morning he woke up at 6am, before all the other kids, and was singing loudly enough to wake me up.</p><p></p><p>This child's behavior is ruining my marriage and my relationship with my own son. I am worried that I did the wrong thing getting married and trying to help these kids, and I am very scared.</p><p></p><p>As far as what tests have been done, I am not sure. He was an in-patient at a mental health facility for almost six days where he had therapy, visits with the psychitrist, and group therapy, so we're still pretty much in the dark about what tests they completed while he was there. He has both follow-up appointments with a therapist (this week) and psychitrist (next week). Yes, they both have IEPs at Head Start, but both IEPs need to be updated (I worked with them on that in the fall of last year). I'm not sure of mental illness on his ex-wife's side, but my husband says that his son exhibits behaviors that he witnessed in his younger brother who was diagnosed with ADHD (my own brother has ADHD and never exhibited that much aggression).</p><p></p><p>He did not leave the hospital on any medication. </p><p></p><p>There have also been episodes of self-harm from him. A few weeks after my son lost his first tooth, this little boy was laying in bed one night and I heard him yelling for his dad, so I went to check on him. He had his tooth in his hand. It wasn't previously loose. </p><p></p><p>Right now we're having to deal with Medicaid, so I'm not sure about a neuropsychologist. I don't even know where to go about looking for one; we live in a small town in Kentucky. Is that someone that we can be referred to through his other doctors?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="michelenicole, post: 523204, member: 14386"] Let's see if I an answer all of your questions and give more background information. His background. At the end of May (last year), both of my step children were removed from their mother's care because she was locking her kids in a bedroom and leaving them there for extended periods of time. She was locking them in the bedroom by tieing a rope from the door knob to the stair banister. When the police found the children on that particular night, she had the children locked in the bedroom and was over at a neighbor's apartment. Witnesses said the police observed no activity at her apartment for at least 45 minutes before they got involved by knocking on the neighbor's door. She was not sent to jail, but has been found guilty of neglect in civil court. When the children first came to live here, the oldest one was peeing on bedding, furniture, toys in the bedroom, and both had anxiety about closing the bedroom door. We still can't close bedroom doors here. Both children were also not on a routine for meals and bedtime - they slept whenever and ate whenever, mostly junk food. We have trouble getting them to eat anything but McDonald's. Both receive speech therapy and have since August. They both just started seeing an occupational therapist a few weeks ago. They both go to a head start child care facility (what I am referring to as "school"), and these services happen through the head start center. The oldest one has been having problems, mostly at school, the entire time he's been living here. I tried and tried to get my husband to do something about it, but my husband didn't see the problems until we received a report from daycare that the child was threatening to shoot his teachers and attempted to stab a teacher in the arm. In August, he hit a pregnant teacher so hard in the stomach that she threw up. He has these "meltdowns" at daycare for not much of a reason at all, which causes him to throw items and furniture, physically assault other children, physically assault teachers, rip posters off the walls, etc. They have a difficult time getting him to calm down, but once he's calm, he's fine until the next "meltdown" happens. At home, he's constantly instigating trouble with my five-year-old by picking on him and arguing with him until my five-year-old reacts (usually through hitting), and he's quick to "tattle tell" after the reaction. He lies constantly; even if you see him do something, he'll lie to you about doing it. Just this morning he woke up at 6am, before all the other kids, and was singing loudly enough to wake me up. This child's behavior is ruining my marriage and my relationship with my own son. I am worried that I did the wrong thing getting married and trying to help these kids, and I am very scared. As far as what tests have been done, I am not sure. He was an in-patient at a mental health facility for almost six days where he had therapy, visits with the psychitrist, and group therapy, so we're still pretty much in the dark about what tests they completed while he was there. He has both follow-up appointments with a therapist (this week) and psychitrist (next week). Yes, they both have IEPs at Head Start, but both IEPs need to be updated (I worked with them on that in the fall of last year). I'm not sure of mental illness on his ex-wife's side, but my husband says that his son exhibits behaviors that he witnessed in his younger brother who was diagnosed with ADHD (my own brother has ADHD and never exhibited that much aggression). He did not leave the hospital on any medication. There have also been episodes of self-harm from him. A few weeks after my son lost his first tooth, this little boy was laying in bed one night and I heard him yelling for his dad, so I went to check on him. He had his tooth in his hand. It wasn't previously loose. Right now we're having to deal with Medicaid, so I'm not sure about a neuropsychologist. I don't even know where to go about looking for one; we live in a small town in Kentucky. Is that someone that we can be referred to through his other doctors? [/QUOTE]
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