Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Hi, New Member!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 523214"><p>Thanks for all the additional information. That makes a huge difference. The easy part, medicaid paid for difficult child 1's neuropsychologist evaluation 100%. I didn't pay a penny and I did not need a referral. You might want to check area Children's Hospitals. That is where most people find theirs. Then you can call them and see if you need a referral. One from a family doctor would be enough if it's needed.</p><p></p><p>Now the tougher part. MAJOR neglect, no chance to develop a healthy relationship, not being around others much, no real sensory input, inadequate nutrition, no being taught normal skills, etc, etc, etc. and then being taken from what's familiar and put them is a strange place with strange people with strange expectations without the skills to handle any of it. There is going to be a LOT of issues for these kids. They have no idea HOW to behave and they have no idea HOW to handle anything much less the anxiety and fear. They have basically just gone through a time warp so to speak and are expected to act in ways and know things they have absolutely no way of knowing.</p><p></p><p>Check out those books. All of his behavior is for a REASON. He's trying to communicate things but doesn't know how so he's acting it out. My guess is PTSD type issues not to mention expectations he has no idea how to meet. You should also dig around for information about Reactive Attachment Disorder, Sensory Integration Disorder, Sensory Processing Disorder, abandonment issues (this would logically be something he feels), developmental delays, effects of severe neglect, etc. </p><p></p><p>Yes, you need to decide if this is best for your son. HE is your proirity but I don't want you to think there is no hope for these boys. They don't know any better because they've never been taught. The typical "treatment" for ODD is holding them TOTALLY responsible for ALL their actions and to show them who's the boss. That will NOT work with this boy. He is not doing ANY of it intentionally. He is a victim in every sense of the word. He is being expected to act in ways and do things that he has know idea how to do it and then getting in trouble for not knowing or for doing it wrong. It sounds like you and your husband should get into counseling also. It's going to be a long road but it is doable. There IS hope.</p><p></p><p>{{{{(((HUGS)))}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 523214"] Thanks for all the additional information. That makes a huge difference. The easy part, medicaid paid for difficult child 1's neuropsychologist evaluation 100%. I didn't pay a penny and I did not need a referral. You might want to check area Children's Hospitals. That is where most people find theirs. Then you can call them and see if you need a referral. One from a family doctor would be enough if it's needed. Now the tougher part. MAJOR neglect, no chance to develop a healthy relationship, not being around others much, no real sensory input, inadequate nutrition, no being taught normal skills, etc, etc, etc. and then being taken from what's familiar and put them is a strange place with strange people with strange expectations without the skills to handle any of it. There is going to be a LOT of issues for these kids. They have no idea HOW to behave and they have no idea HOW to handle anything much less the anxiety and fear. They have basically just gone through a time warp so to speak and are expected to act in ways and know things they have absolutely no way of knowing. Check out those books. All of his behavior is for a REASON. He's trying to communicate things but doesn't know how so he's acting it out. My guess is PTSD type issues not to mention expectations he has no idea how to meet. You should also dig around for information about Reactive Attachment Disorder, Sensory Integration Disorder, Sensory Processing Disorder, abandonment issues (this would logically be something he feels), developmental delays, effects of severe neglect, etc. Yes, you need to decide if this is best for your son. HE is your proirity but I don't want you to think there is no hope for these boys. They don't know any better because they've never been taught. The typical "treatment" for ODD is holding them TOTALLY responsible for ALL their actions and to show them who's the boss. That will NOT work with this boy. He is not doing ANY of it intentionally. He is a victim in every sense of the word. He is being expected to act in ways and do things that he has know idea how to do it and then getting in trouble for not knowing or for doing it wrong. It sounds like you and your husband should get into counseling also. It's going to be a long road but it is doable. There IS hope. {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Hi, New Member!
Top