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<blockquote data-quote="michelenicole" data-source="post: 525155" data-attributes="member: 14386"><p>Hi. I didn't know if I'd be back to read responses because I thought I may have made the wrong impressions. But I decided to check back in, and definitely wanted to say thank you for the rest of the responses. Everyone has given me so many different things to try, so I'm not feeling so hopeless about things never improving. Plus, we made some changes at home that have seemed to help slightly, so I'm optimistic about those.</p><p></p><p>Gavin and T were sharing a bedroom. I finally convinced the husband to separate them shortly after T's return from the hospital. Gavin now shares a bedroom with the younger child, B (who has problems, but nothing with aggression and Gavin and B play great together). Gavin seems to be a much happier child because T isn't so "in his face" as he was previously, plus he's not having to deal with T waking him up or not letting him sleep. T now has his own space (with a gate on the door), and at first he was very upset to be put in a room alone, but I think he's actually enjoying having his own space now. </p><p></p><p>Also, we started a new/different reward system with the kids, and all three of them have had two good days in a row at school (yay!). T stood up on a table today, ready to have an outburst, and Gavin reminded him of the reward, and he thought about it and got down (yay!). Though I don't necessarily agree with bribery, I think it is teaching him to make better choices.</p><p></p><p>Gavin and T have also been approved to begin this Impact Plus therapy program (I don't know if any of you have heard of it). But the group works with the entire family with therapists and techniques to help at home. They are supposed to begin that on Monday, and we are very thankful that they have been approved for it.</p><p></p><p>Gavin's issues seem to have calmed down tremendously after moving T out of his bedroom. I should have done it sooner, but, then again, I didn't realize the severity of T's problems until the aggression really came out at daycare. I've also been watching the two of them and how they interact more closely, which gives T less of an opportunity to pick on him because I can stop it before it becomes something were Gavin has to react aggressively.</p><p></p><p>But, again, I want to thank everyone for their support and encouragement. I am now prepared to take one day at a time. And my husband has also been much better at recognizing T's problems, which makes me more optimistic for our future together. Gavin is still my main concern, so I'm watching things very, very closely, and also continuing to search for ways to make his life and adjustments easier.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and I think someone asked, but, yes, T and B both see their mother still, but the visits are sporadic (which makes it harder on them because they DO miss their mommy). When B comes back from visiting her he has night terrors <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> She recently moved 45 minutes away, so she hasn't seen either of them in almost two weeks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="michelenicole, post: 525155, member: 14386"] Hi. I didn't know if I'd be back to read responses because I thought I may have made the wrong impressions. But I decided to check back in, and definitely wanted to say thank you for the rest of the responses. Everyone has given me so many different things to try, so I'm not feeling so hopeless about things never improving. Plus, we made some changes at home that have seemed to help slightly, so I'm optimistic about those. Gavin and T were sharing a bedroom. I finally convinced the husband to separate them shortly after T's return from the hospital. Gavin now shares a bedroom with the younger child, B (who has problems, but nothing with aggression and Gavin and B play great together). Gavin seems to be a much happier child because T isn't so "in his face" as he was previously, plus he's not having to deal with T waking him up or not letting him sleep. T now has his own space (with a gate on the door), and at first he was very upset to be put in a room alone, but I think he's actually enjoying having his own space now. Also, we started a new/different reward system with the kids, and all three of them have had two good days in a row at school (yay!). T stood up on a table today, ready to have an outburst, and Gavin reminded him of the reward, and he thought about it and got down (yay!). Though I don't necessarily agree with bribery, I think it is teaching him to make better choices. Gavin and T have also been approved to begin this Impact Plus therapy program (I don't know if any of you have heard of it). But the group works with the entire family with therapists and techniques to help at home. They are supposed to begin that on Monday, and we are very thankful that they have been approved for it. Gavin's issues seem to have calmed down tremendously after moving T out of his bedroom. I should have done it sooner, but, then again, I didn't realize the severity of T's problems until the aggression really came out at daycare. I've also been watching the two of them and how they interact more closely, which gives T less of an opportunity to pick on him because I can stop it before it becomes something were Gavin has to react aggressively. But, again, I want to thank everyone for their support and encouragement. I am now prepared to take one day at a time. And my husband has also been much better at recognizing T's problems, which makes me more optimistic for our future together. Gavin is still my main concern, so I'm watching things very, very closely, and also continuing to search for ways to make his life and adjustments easier. Oh, and I think someone asked, but, yes, T and B both see their mother still, but the visits are sporadic (which makes it harder on them because they DO miss their mommy). When B comes back from visiting her he has night terrors :( She recently moved 45 minutes away, so she hasn't seen either of them in almost two weeks. [/QUOTE]
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