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Hi. New. Parent of 5-year old who most likely has ODD
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<blockquote data-quote="artmama" data-source="post: 449238" data-attributes="member: 12488"><p>We'll get a diagnosis, but it's going to have to make sense to me. Growing up, I was diagnosed with everything from schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, borderline personality, what have you. I was medicated and incarcerated in a psychiatric ward against my will. At 17, I was blessedly taken out of my mother's custody and put in a group home. The staff took me off all medication. Once it was out of my system, I thrived. I got a job, learned to cook, made friends, and enrolled in college. I now own my own business, which I have run successfully for 11 years. I give this backstory to illustrate why I am leery of diagnosis's and medications. I've read a LOT of mental health websites and read a lot of books. I personally don't think it's asperger's (he's super social with peers, just doesn't like being told what to do by authority figures), bipolar (he doesn't have depressive episodes, plus he's kind of young), or ADD (He can hyper-focus on a task, although if he is bored he is super wiggly). The ODD may be a symptom, but I can't for the life of me figure out what.</p><p></p><p>We don't abuse him, we tell him we love him every day. I tell him all the time how proud I am of him and how much he means to me. I tell him after these tantrums that I love him no matter what happens, and that nothing he does can change that. I tell him he's a good boy, and that he's everything in the world to me. I suppose until a diagnosis is made and treatment taken that bears fruit, we are playing a waiting game, but it feels like my son's life is on hold until that happens. I just wish I had the answer <em>now. </em>I feel like the clock is counting down for him to be labelled a 'bad seed'. I don't want him ostracized or singled out.</p><p></p><p>We'll be trying new things at home, too. His father and I sat down today and we both made the decision to pursue family counselling so we can figure out what part if any we may be playing in exacerbating this, because unlike my mother, I do not want to scapegoat my child. This is a family problem, and the entire family is going to have to change to fix it.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for listening. I may not be happy about this, but at least I'm not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="artmama, post: 449238, member: 12488"] We'll get a diagnosis, but it's going to have to make sense to me. Growing up, I was diagnosed with everything from schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, borderline personality, what have you. I was medicated and incarcerated in a psychiatric ward against my will. At 17, I was blessedly taken out of my mother's custody and put in a group home. The staff took me off all medication. Once it was out of my system, I thrived. I got a job, learned to cook, made friends, and enrolled in college. I now own my own business, which I have run successfully for 11 years. I give this backstory to illustrate why I am leery of diagnosis's and medications. I've read a LOT of mental health websites and read a lot of books. I personally don't think it's asperger's (he's super social with peers, just doesn't like being told what to do by authority figures), bipolar (he doesn't have depressive episodes, plus he's kind of young), or ADD (He can hyper-focus on a task, although if he is bored he is super wiggly). The ODD may be a symptom, but I can't for the life of me figure out what. We don't abuse him, we tell him we love him every day. I tell him all the time how proud I am of him and how much he means to me. I tell him after these tantrums that I love him no matter what happens, and that nothing he does can change that. I tell him he's a good boy, and that he's everything in the world to me. I suppose until a diagnosis is made and treatment taken that bears fruit, we are playing a waiting game, but it feels like my son's life is on hold until that happens. I just wish I had the answer [I]now. [/I]I feel like the clock is counting down for him to be labelled a 'bad seed'. I don't want him ostracized or singled out. We'll be trying new things at home, too. His father and I sat down today and we both made the decision to pursue family counselling so we can figure out what part if any we may be playing in exacerbating this, because unlike my mother, I do not want to scapegoat my child. This is a family problem, and the entire family is going to have to change to fix it. Thank you for listening. I may not be happy about this, but at least I'm not alone. [/QUOTE]
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