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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 440119" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Susie, you're right. It's sad, really - I quite like her, despite her problems when she had to interact with difficult child 3 in a school setting. We have absolutely no problems with them in the neighbourhood, but I do know that some people, including former students, do bear grudges.</p><p></p><p>I do think another moral to that story is, "never teach in your local village school. Always go further afield."</p><p></p><p>Thanks for saying I have a gift, but really, I think it's just that I had to find a way that worked, in a small-minded small village environment. I had to find a way to not only work with these people, but continue to live with them too. I fight back a lot more than most; too many parents in our village will either roll over and put up with stuff, or just move their kids out of area (and begin daily long commutes, we are isolated here). With so many other parents putting up with unsatisfactory practices, the rest of us had little chance to force change. But sometimes it worked. Always, however, in the small village environment, the best results can be obtained with "Let's work together to find some answers." </p><p></p><p>I think I earned a halo with difficult child 3's last teacher at that school - as far as I have earned any halo. I never thought I would be able to work with that woman. I suspect the feeling was mutual. I suspect they get their windows attacked too, but they live further away from us than the W family. Mrs W was perfection personified by comparison with this - person (trying to find an acceptable word - I give up). It was a tough year for difficult child 3, he coped with this new teacher by simply being sick every day, running a low-grade fever and vomiting as soon as he arrived at school. Genuinely ill, but it took us most of the year to confirm that it was all anxiety. THAT is how extreme anxiety can get, especially when you have a teacher who WILL NOT adapt, or listen to the experts provided to support their teaching of a special needs child. </p><p></p><p>One last point, Malika - difficult child 3's anxiety ramped up further each year he spent in that school environment. We ended up having to move him, and it took a few years to undo the damage done. Your son already is damaged. It will get worse if it continues, and as he gets older. You have a week of school year left, to check out other options. Do check them out first - there is no point making a move, if the new place is just as bad. You would have the moving costs to deal with, with no benefit. But if you check it out and find out that it will be better, then who knows what the future will bring? You might find that the place is so good, you don't feel the need to move to England or Morocco in a couple of year's time. Or if you do, he will be more adaptable and generally easier to deal with, if he is in a good learning environment. He also will know that you have set certain standards for people to adhere to, in their dealings with him. That he matters to you, that you love him enough to fight for him. Of course we all love our kids that much, but often our kids don't realise it, especially if something bad is happening and we are unable to make it stop.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 440119, member: 1991"] Susie, you're right. It's sad, really - I quite like her, despite her problems when she had to interact with difficult child 3 in a school setting. We have absolutely no problems with them in the neighbourhood, but I do know that some people, including former students, do bear grudges. I do think another moral to that story is, "never teach in your local village school. Always go further afield." Thanks for saying I have a gift, but really, I think it's just that I had to find a way that worked, in a small-minded small village environment. I had to find a way to not only work with these people, but continue to live with them too. I fight back a lot more than most; too many parents in our village will either roll over and put up with stuff, or just move their kids out of area (and begin daily long commutes, we are isolated here). With so many other parents putting up with unsatisfactory practices, the rest of us had little chance to force change. But sometimes it worked. Always, however, in the small village environment, the best results can be obtained with "Let's work together to find some answers." I think I earned a halo with difficult child 3's last teacher at that school - as far as I have earned any halo. I never thought I would be able to work with that woman. I suspect the feeling was mutual. I suspect they get their windows attacked too, but they live further away from us than the W family. Mrs W was perfection personified by comparison with this - person (trying to find an acceptable word - I give up). It was a tough year for difficult child 3, he coped with this new teacher by simply being sick every day, running a low-grade fever and vomiting as soon as he arrived at school. Genuinely ill, but it took us most of the year to confirm that it was all anxiety. THAT is how extreme anxiety can get, especially when you have a teacher who WILL NOT adapt, or listen to the experts provided to support their teaching of a special needs child. One last point, Malika - difficult child 3's anxiety ramped up further each year he spent in that school environment. We ended up having to move him, and it took a few years to undo the damage done. Your son already is damaged. It will get worse if it continues, and as he gets older. You have a week of school year left, to check out other options. Do check them out first - there is no point making a move, if the new place is just as bad. You would have the moving costs to deal with, with no benefit. But if you check it out and find out that it will be better, then who knows what the future will bring? You might find that the place is so good, you don't feel the need to move to England or Morocco in a couple of year's time. Or if you do, he will be more adaptable and generally easier to deal with, if he is in a good learning environment. He also will know that you have set certain standards for people to adhere to, in their dealings with him. That he matters to you, that you love him enough to fight for him. Of course we all love our kids that much, but often our kids don't realise it, especially if something bad is happening and we are unable to make it stop. Marg [/QUOTE]
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