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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 289495" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Susie, I just reread your original post and specifically the last line. I didn't catch the part about commitment the first time around, sorry. </p><p></p><p>Anymore, I don't know that that would really affect a couple's outlook on the commitment. So many people, married in a church/religious setting or otherwise, go into a marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out, they can always get a divorce so I don't think that the setting really matters. I mentioned in my previous response about husband and I talking about getting married in a church to do it "right". For me, it wasn't so much a religious belief but more of a traditional thing. I have my beliefs but I don't really consider myself all that religious. But....I respect religion and that's why I didn't pursue the confirmation classes to be married in the Catholic church. I knew I wouldn't go to church and I didn't feel right "using" the church in that manner. husband and I have had our ups and downs over the years but it would take a lot for either of us to ask for or file for a divorce. I know it's always a possibility and I would do it if necessary, but it would be a last resort or take a <strong>BIG</strong> idiotic move on husband's (or mine to be fair) part for me to do it. Even though we weren't married in a church, I think the attitude would be the same even if we had. Also, husband has been married twice before with at least one wedding having taken place in a church. I know him (and I've also been told this by others who knew him at those times) and know that he would have put some major effort into the marriage to try to make it work. That attitude is just how he is and I don't believe would have anything to do with who performed the ceremony. I think your attitude on marriage is based on your own beliefs whether they be religious or otherwise....not on who does the ceremony. For example, one of my sister in law's best friends is married. She (and her husband) comes from a very religious background and would never get a divorce. But....she's miserable. She got married for all of the wrong reasons (partly because she lived a very sheltered life at home and wanted to be out of the house but didn't want to be alone) and while I think she does love her husband (who is a difficult child of sorts), I don't believe she loves him in the way you should when you marry someone.</p><p></p><p>Wow...didn't really mean to write a book there. I guess my point is that, at least for ME, I don't think it matters WHO does the ceremony...your feelings on commitment and marriage are going to come from other things, not whose signature is on the license. But...I still have mixed feelings about the online ordination. (Is that a word?)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 289495, member: 2459"] Susie, I just reread your original post and specifically the last line. I didn't catch the part about commitment the first time around, sorry. Anymore, I don't know that that would really affect a couple's outlook on the commitment. So many people, married in a church/religious setting or otherwise, go into a marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out, they can always get a divorce so I don't think that the setting really matters. I mentioned in my previous response about husband and I talking about getting married in a church to do it "right". For me, it wasn't so much a religious belief but more of a traditional thing. I have my beliefs but I don't really consider myself all that religious. But....I respect religion and that's why I didn't pursue the confirmation classes to be married in the Catholic church. I knew I wouldn't go to church and I didn't feel right "using" the church in that manner. husband and I have had our ups and downs over the years but it would take a lot for either of us to ask for or file for a divorce. I know it's always a possibility and I would do it if necessary, but it would be a last resort or take a [B]BIG[/B] idiotic move on husband's (or mine to be fair) part for me to do it. Even though we weren't married in a church, I think the attitude would be the same even if we had. Also, husband has been married twice before with at least one wedding having taken place in a church. I know him (and I've also been told this by others who knew him at those times) and know that he would have put some major effort into the marriage to try to make it work. That attitude is just how he is and I don't believe would have anything to do with who performed the ceremony. I think your attitude on marriage is based on your own beliefs whether they be religious or otherwise....not on who does the ceremony. For example, one of my sister in law's best friends is married. She (and her husband) comes from a very religious background and would never get a divorce. But....she's miserable. She got married for all of the wrong reasons (partly because she lived a very sheltered life at home and wanted to be out of the house but didn't want to be alone) and while I think she does love her husband (who is a difficult child of sorts), I don't believe she loves him in the way you should when you marry someone. Wow...didn't really mean to write a book there. I guess my point is that, at least for ME, I don't think it matters WHO does the ceremony...your feelings on commitment and marriage are going to come from other things, not whose signature is on the license. But...I still have mixed feelings about the online ordination. (Is that a word?) [/QUOTE]
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