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<blockquote data-quote="idohope" data-source="post: 386011" data-attributes="member: 7722"><p>Hi Jena,</p><p></p><p>I have also dealt with the hoarding. Finally, when we started difficult child on abilify she was able to pack everything in her room into totes. She was able to actually give away some clothes that she no longer wears and sell some furniture at a yard sale. The furniture had sat in our garage for a year. She did not want it in her room but had so many conditions on how we could get rid of it that it just sat there. We are in the process of redecorating her room and she agrees that we will only put back in what she has a place for. She is no longer on the abilify and is still sticking with the plan, sort of. Even with just clothes in her room it is a disaster and so we have not been moving anything back in. For years she slept on the floor of her room (by choice; when I was able to convince not her be on the floor of my room) and the whole floor was covered with stuff and she would be there in the middle of in wrapped in a blanket. I know it would have horrified people with typical kids but this was not the major behavior that we needed to tackle in the past few years.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the others that you need to address the eating first. What I found with difficult child is that when her anxiety and behaviors were at a high point it was near impossible to deal with the hoarding. I think you should address just the safetly issue of it (getting out really gross food stuff) for now and after the eating is dealt with and other aspects of her anxiety are being dealt with to start addressing the hoarding. </p><p></p><p> Maybe you could take a small step with her now of not allowing anything new into the room without something coming out. I used to try getting difficult child to agree that if we went clothes shopping that she had to remove one item of clothing for each new item. There were a couple of times when she agreed that I could clean up her room. I had to save all the garbage in a bag so she could look at it and make sure I was not throwing out something good. So I do know where you are coming from! But it is amazing how quickly the room goes back to total disaster.</p><p></p><p>husband just always wants to throw her stuff out. Take it when she if not home etc. All the professionals advise against that, as I am sure you know. </p><p></p><p>Anyway I would just take it slow on the hoarding for now. Good luck with it all</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="idohope, post: 386011, member: 7722"] Hi Jena, I have also dealt with the hoarding. Finally, when we started difficult child on abilify she was able to pack everything in her room into totes. She was able to actually give away some clothes that she no longer wears and sell some furniture at a yard sale. The furniture had sat in our garage for a year. She did not want it in her room but had so many conditions on how we could get rid of it that it just sat there. We are in the process of redecorating her room and she agrees that we will only put back in what she has a place for. She is no longer on the abilify and is still sticking with the plan, sort of. Even with just clothes in her room it is a disaster and so we have not been moving anything back in. For years she slept on the floor of her room (by choice; when I was able to convince not her be on the floor of my room) and the whole floor was covered with stuff and she would be there in the middle of in wrapped in a blanket. I know it would have horrified people with typical kids but this was not the major behavior that we needed to tackle in the past few years. I agree with the others that you need to address the eating first. What I found with difficult child is that when her anxiety and behaviors were at a high point it was near impossible to deal with the hoarding. I think you should address just the safetly issue of it (getting out really gross food stuff) for now and after the eating is dealt with and other aspects of her anxiety are being dealt with to start addressing the hoarding. Maybe you could take a small step with her now of not allowing anything new into the room without something coming out. I used to try getting difficult child to agree that if we went clothes shopping that she had to remove one item of clothing for each new item. There were a couple of times when she agreed that I could clean up her room. I had to save all the garbage in a bag so she could look at it and make sure I was not throwing out something good. So I do know where you are coming from! But it is amazing how quickly the room goes back to total disaster. husband just always wants to throw her stuff out. Take it when she if not home etc. All the professionals advise against that, as I am sure you know. Anyway I would just take it slow on the hoarding for now. Good luck with it all [/QUOTE]
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