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Holiday blues and trying to keep the drama at bay...
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 394996" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>If she hasn't called to reschedule a time for today, I wouldn't sit around and wait for the call, just make your own plans if you have other options. If not and it's convenient for her to call and show last minute, that's fine too. </p><p></p><p>Compared to some of her other behavior and choices, I'd say this behavior is closer to "normal" young adult behavior than difficult child. Getting used to our kids not "needing" us so much, and moving on with their own lives and not calling/coming by as often, is part of getting used to an empty nest. I think for parents of difficult children, we're so used to the drama and the constant neediness that when some "normal" distancing does occur, it feels doubly unnatural, and can be doubly difficult to get used to. That doesn't mean that it's not rude of her to keep you waiting or not follow through on plans made with you... clearly that has to be dealt with. But keep in mind that your relationship with her is shifting into new territory. It takes some getting used to. It doesn't mean you won't have a relationship with her, it just means it's going to be a different type of relationship. The best thing you can do is ask yourself what you'd like to do with YOUR life now, what things did you put off doing when she was so needy and around so much? Then go do them <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 394996, member: 1157"] If she hasn't called to reschedule a time for today, I wouldn't sit around and wait for the call, just make your own plans if you have other options. If not and it's convenient for her to call and show last minute, that's fine too. Compared to some of her other behavior and choices, I'd say this behavior is closer to "normal" young adult behavior than difficult child. Getting used to our kids not "needing" us so much, and moving on with their own lives and not calling/coming by as often, is part of getting used to an empty nest. I think for parents of difficult children, we're so used to the drama and the constant neediness that when some "normal" distancing does occur, it feels doubly unnatural, and can be doubly difficult to get used to. That doesn't mean that it's not rude of her to keep you waiting or not follow through on plans made with you... clearly that has to be dealt with. But keep in mind that your relationship with her is shifting into new territory. It takes some getting used to. It doesn't mean you won't have a relationship with her, it just means it's going to be a different type of relationship. The best thing you can do is ask yourself what you'd like to do with YOUR life now, what things did you put off doing when she was so needy and around so much? Then go do them :) [/QUOTE]
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