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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 395143" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>Thanks, everyone. I always feel guilty posting about my comparitivley small struggles yet you are always there for me anyway. Being fairly new to Planet difficult child means for some rocky times and some attitude adjustments.</p><p> </p><p>Hound, I did call and I'm glad I did. She was distracted with boyfriend and - well, distracted is the norm for her. I very lightly asked if we were still on and she she'd be over in a half hour. She came and we really had a lovely time.</p><p> </p><p>I really overreacted on this one. I guess I was triggering from past situations where she would use something like this to retaliate against some perceived wrong. She's done that several times recently - it's baffling and painful. This wasn't one of those times though, and, had I kept spiraling on my pity party tangent, I could have ruined a perfectly good dady.</p><p> </p><p>So thanks for reining me in, guys. Crazy, you are absolutely right. Yesterday was an example of pretty normal teen stuff. Sometimes, when you're dealing with the crazy stuff it's hard to recognize what is normal.</p><p> </p><p>I know my hurting over the holidays is a combination of the normal wistfulness that comes from the shift from parenting a child to being the parent of an adult along with the residual pain of having my world turned upside down by divorce. I am blessed with an loving extended family, and I know my holiday will be just fine.</p><p> </p><p>And, as to my sitting around waiting for her .. I wasn't. I had a ton of things to do and I was keeping busy. When she was in middle and high school, I pretty much worked my schedule around hers because DEX was so unreliable. When she moved back with him and was perfectly content to forgo things like guitar lessons and walk places, rather than rely on me for transortation, I changed my thinking. i don't wait around any more and I don't work my schedule around hers anymore. I have a long way to go in the detachment department, but there has been some progress.</p><p> </p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 395143, member: 9175"] Thanks, everyone. I always feel guilty posting about my comparitivley small struggles yet you are always there for me anyway. Being fairly new to Planet difficult child means for some rocky times and some attitude adjustments. Hound, I did call and I'm glad I did. She was distracted with boyfriend and - well, distracted is the norm for her. I very lightly asked if we were still on and she she'd be over in a half hour. She came and we really had a lovely time. I really overreacted on this one. I guess I was triggering from past situations where she would use something like this to retaliate against some perceived wrong. She's done that several times recently - it's baffling and painful. This wasn't one of those times though, and, had I kept spiraling on my pity party tangent, I could have ruined a perfectly good dady. So thanks for reining me in, guys. Crazy, you are absolutely right. Yesterday was an example of pretty normal teen stuff. Sometimes, when you're dealing with the crazy stuff it's hard to recognize what is normal. I know my hurting over the holidays is a combination of the normal wistfulness that comes from the shift from parenting a child to being the parent of an adult along with the residual pain of having my world turned upside down by divorce. I am blessed with an loving extended family, and I know my holiday will be just fine. And, as to my sitting around waiting for her .. I wasn't. I had a ton of things to do and I was keeping busy. When she was in middle and high school, I pretty much worked my schedule around hers because DEX was so unreliable. When she moved back with him and was perfectly content to forgo things like guitar lessons and walk places, rather than rely on me for transortation, I changed my thinking. i don't wait around any more and I don't work my schedule around hers anymore. I have a long way to go in the detachment department, but there has been some progress. Dash [/QUOTE]
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