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Homeless 46 year old daughter and a son in jail
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 698915" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Jodie, my daughter used to respond to me that way. Over the last few years I've stepped back considerably and do much, much less for her and nothing where I give her money......as I detached from her needs and said no more and more often, go figure......she became so appreciative, so grateful. Her gratitude was in direct proportion to my level of detachment, the more I receded out of her sphere of continuing need, the more she became aware of me and what I did do. Now I do very little and her response is a lot of appreciation. </p><p></p><p>If anyone else treated you that way and made you feel resentful for your giving, you'd likely stop giving. Because they're our kids, we give them many chances to change and learn to appreciate us......however, they rarely change unless we change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 698915, member: 13542"] Jodie, my daughter used to respond to me that way. Over the last few years I've stepped back considerably and do much, much less for her and nothing where I give her money......as I detached from her needs and said no more and more often, go figure......she became so appreciative, so grateful. Her gratitude was in direct proportion to my level of detachment, the more I receded out of her sphere of continuing need, the more she became aware of me and what I did do. Now I do very little and her response is a lot of appreciation. If anyone else treated you that way and made you feel resentful for your giving, you'd likely stop giving. Because they're our kids, we give them many chances to change and learn to appreciate us......however, they rarely change unless we change. [/QUOTE]
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