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Homeless and facing 5 charges with my 20yr.old son
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630218" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Yes I do have a very similar situation with my son. And it has been going on for the past four years, intensely. </p><p></p><p>He is addicted to drugs and he has been in jail 8 or 9 times. If he gets arrested again, they have said that he will definitely serve all of his time, which is four years. He has two felonies and multiple misdemeanors. </p><p></p><p>Jail is the very best place for your son and my son. There, they are much safer than out on the street, living the lives they have chosen. </p><p></p><p>Worried, please quit trying to save your son. It's never going to work. I understand your need to be in court---I used to go too, early on. Not any more. So, go if you must, but I doubt seriously if the judge will hear from you or want to hear from you. </p><p></p><p>What would you say anyway? </p><p></p><p>The truth is your friend. The truth is your son's friend.</p><p></p><p>Don't try to obscure the truth. </p><p></p><p>I would start working TODAY on me, if I were you. Start stopping your enabling, your managing, your controlling and start detaching with love and start accepting your son right now for who he is showing you that he is. </p><p></p><p>It's about actions. He is a drug addict and a drug dealer. People like your son---and my son---need to be in jail so society is protected from them. My son sold drugs too, and he was caught by an undercover police officer and received a grand jury indictment.</p><p></p><p>So don't think I don't get it. I do. It's awful, and you will have to cry and grieve and do the hard work if you want to change. </p><p></p><p>That is where your energy is best spent. Not on trying to save your son. He will have to save himself. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry this is happening to you. Nobody deserves this pain and this horror. </p><p></p><p>But it is what it is. He is facing the consequences of his own choices. Nobody else's but his. </p><p></p><p>Start accepting reality and start working on you. The more time and effort you put into YOU, the better your life will be, and more quickly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630218, member: 17542"] Yes I do have a very similar situation with my son. And it has been going on for the past four years, intensely. He is addicted to drugs and he has been in jail 8 or 9 times. If he gets arrested again, they have said that he will definitely serve all of his time, which is four years. He has two felonies and multiple misdemeanors. Jail is the very best place for your son and my son. There, they are much safer than out on the street, living the lives they have chosen. Worried, please quit trying to save your son. It's never going to work. I understand your need to be in court---I used to go too, early on. Not any more. So, go if you must, but I doubt seriously if the judge will hear from you or want to hear from you. What would you say anyway? The truth is your friend. The truth is your son's friend. Don't try to obscure the truth. I would start working TODAY on me, if I were you. Start stopping your enabling, your managing, your controlling and start detaching with love and start accepting your son right now for who he is showing you that he is. It's about actions. He is a drug addict and a drug dealer. People like your son---and my son---need to be in jail so society is protected from them. My son sold drugs too, and he was caught by an undercover police officer and received a grand jury indictment. So don't think I don't get it. I do. It's awful, and you will have to cry and grieve and do the hard work if you want to change. That is where your energy is best spent. Not on trying to save your son. He will have to save himself. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Nobody deserves this pain and this horror. But it is what it is. He is facing the consequences of his own choices. Nobody else's but his. Start accepting reality and start working on you. The more time and effort you put into YOU, the better your life will be, and more quickly. [/QUOTE]
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