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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 699270" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi AJ's mom, I'm so sorry. I can hear your bewilderment in every line that you wrote. Feeling like we've been duped is an awful feeling. It permeates everything and makes us not trust ourselves or anybody else. I have felt that way about my son, too. </p><p></p><p>I think, though, that believing people is good. You had no reason NOT to believe him. Everything you wrote sounded plausible. I found that my Difficult Child would tell me exactly what he thought I wanted to hear. He knew me so well that he knew what would please me and make me more open to him, so that is exactly what he would say. It is manipulation, and we are such innocents. </p><p></p><p>I agree with others who have said that you will find out if something bad happens. There were also times for me that my son was homeless and I didn't know where he was for days. I used to get very anxious---not knowing---because I felt so very out of control when I had no idea where he was. That was worse than anything.</p><p></p><p>But as time went on, I came to believe that no news is good news. Right now, you can't do anything about this. This is beyond your control and out of your hands. As you can, turn it over to whatever power you believe in. Something greater than yourself. You've done all you can right now. Let it go, as much as is humanly possible. When you find yourself obsessively thinking about it, give yourself 10 minutes to do that, and then redirect yourself to your own life, people you love, work you enjoy, hobbies that make you happy. You will find out soon enough. </p><p></p><p>Today one thing I like to tell myself is this: You'll know (whatever it is) when you need to know. When you're "supposed" to know. Until then...</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. We're here for you. We understand your emotions because we have all been right there, right where you are. You are not alone here. We're here with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 699270, member: 17542"] Hi AJ's mom, I'm so sorry. I can hear your bewilderment in every line that you wrote. Feeling like we've been duped is an awful feeling. It permeates everything and makes us not trust ourselves or anybody else. I have felt that way about my son, too. I think, though, that believing people is good. You had no reason NOT to believe him. Everything you wrote sounded plausible. I found that my Difficult Child would tell me exactly what he thought I wanted to hear. He knew me so well that he knew what would please me and make me more open to him, so that is exactly what he would say. It is manipulation, and we are such innocents. I agree with others who have said that you will find out if something bad happens. There were also times for me that my son was homeless and I didn't know where he was for days. I used to get very anxious---not knowing---because I felt so very out of control when I had no idea where he was. That was worse than anything. But as time went on, I came to believe that no news is good news. Right now, you can't do anything about this. This is beyond your control and out of your hands. As you can, turn it over to whatever power you believe in. Something greater than yourself. You've done all you can right now. Let it go, as much as is humanly possible. When you find yourself obsessively thinking about it, give yourself 10 minutes to do that, and then redirect yourself to your own life, people you love, work you enjoy, hobbies that make you happy. You will find out soon enough. Today one thing I like to tell myself is this: You'll know (whatever it is) when you need to know. When you're "supposed" to know. Until then... Hang in there. We're here for you. We understand your emotions because we have all been right there, right where you are. You are not alone here. We're here with you. [/QUOTE]
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