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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 717076" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! I know this has to be scary for you. I would put alarms on his door so that you are awakened if he leaves his room at night. Put the alarm on the outside of the door so that if it opens, the alarm goes off and wakes you up. It will be annoying because he will play with it, but it is a safety thing.</p><p></p><p>I question the validity of a conduct disorder diagnosis in a child of 7. I don't know enough to know if this is or isn't true. Given the DSM5 criteria, my son would have been given this label. It certainly doesn't fit him. It at least doesn't truly describe what was going on in any way that will help him. In many ways it seems like the ODD label to me - over used and under-helpful. From all the doctors, therapists, specialists and other '-ists we saw, I think at least 95% of the children, and all of the boys, had the ODD label. It never gave a single one of us parents even one idea about how to help our boys. It just told us that they didn't like to be told what to do or to be told "no" or anything else. Other than that, it didn't give us any information. I think the conduct disorder label is very much like that only even less hopeful. </p><p></p><p>I also think there are diagnostic trends, and this may be a current trend. Back when my son was 12-16, the trend was bipolar disorder. Every time we changed doctors due to insurance changes or my son going into the hospital, the doctor tried to say he was bipolar. He was about as far from bipolar as string is from a brick. It just does not fit. It never did, but many docs tried to make it fit, and then they wanted to take shortcuts to medicate him for it. I ended up studying bipolar to figure out if he was or not (my instinct said he wasn't, and so did 2 docs I trusted) and I learned how to stop the docs from changing the medications in the shortcut way. </p><p></p><p>I think you need to study all you can about CD and everything else this might possibly be, and then trust your instincts to lead you to the correct conclusions. </p><p></p><p>Did your other children do well in school? Did they like it? Why did they have to be homeschooled just because your 7yo needed to be homeschooled? Would it be best to homeschool him and have them in school so he had 1:1 attention? And he could be taken to therapy and doctor appointments etc... easily? Maybe it would be best to homeschool the other children and have the 7yo in school where he would have an IEP and all the supports that the school can give him at no cost to you? </p><p></p><p>I homeschooled each of my children at one time or another. Sometimes I homeschooled all 3 of them, but not often. Every semester my husband and I evaluated what was best for each child, what each child needed and how we could best provide that for each child. It meant sometimes I had one kid at home, and the other 2 were each in different schools. That was a hectic PITA, but it was worth it because it was what was right for each child. Children are individual and what works for one may or may not work for another. Being home with a violent sibling may be fine for one of your children and may absolutely terrify another of your children. I don't know how he interacts with them when you are not there, neither do you. But if he truly has CD, then he likely scares them and you cannot supervise them all the time. I would be very worried about how he was with them when my eyes were not on them. I mean when I was not actually in the room with them. Or when my back was to them. This may be something to think about.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide, I hope it works well for your family. You can only do the best you can with the information and tools you have. When you have better tools and information, you do better. That is truly all anyone can ask of you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 717076, member: 1233"] Welcome! I know this has to be scary for you. I would put alarms on his door so that you are awakened if he leaves his room at night. Put the alarm on the outside of the door so that if it opens, the alarm goes off and wakes you up. It will be annoying because he will play with it, but it is a safety thing. I question the validity of a conduct disorder diagnosis in a child of 7. I don't know enough to know if this is or isn't true. Given the DSM5 criteria, my son would have been given this label. It certainly doesn't fit him. It at least doesn't truly describe what was going on in any way that will help him. In many ways it seems like the ODD label to me - over used and under-helpful. From all the doctors, therapists, specialists and other '-ists we saw, I think at least 95% of the children, and all of the boys, had the ODD label. It never gave a single one of us parents even one idea about how to help our boys. It just told us that they didn't like to be told what to do or to be told "no" or anything else. Other than that, it didn't give us any information. I think the conduct disorder label is very much like that only even less hopeful. I also think there are diagnostic trends, and this may be a current trend. Back when my son was 12-16, the trend was bipolar disorder. Every time we changed doctors due to insurance changes or my son going into the hospital, the doctor tried to say he was bipolar. He was about as far from bipolar as string is from a brick. It just does not fit. It never did, but many docs tried to make it fit, and then they wanted to take shortcuts to medicate him for it. I ended up studying bipolar to figure out if he was or not (my instinct said he wasn't, and so did 2 docs I trusted) and I learned how to stop the docs from changing the medications in the shortcut way. I think you need to study all you can about CD and everything else this might possibly be, and then trust your instincts to lead you to the correct conclusions. Did your other children do well in school? Did they like it? Why did they have to be homeschooled just because your 7yo needed to be homeschooled? Would it be best to homeschool him and have them in school so he had 1:1 attention? And he could be taken to therapy and doctor appointments etc... easily? Maybe it would be best to homeschool the other children and have the 7yo in school where he would have an IEP and all the supports that the school can give him at no cost to you? I homeschooled each of my children at one time or another. Sometimes I homeschooled all 3 of them, but not often. Every semester my husband and I evaluated what was best for each child, what each child needed and how we could best provide that for each child. It meant sometimes I had one kid at home, and the other 2 were each in different schools. That was a hectic PITA, but it was worth it because it was what was right for each child. Children are individual and what works for one may or may not work for another. Being home with a violent sibling may be fine for one of your children and may absolutely terrify another of your children. I don't know how he interacts with them when you are not there, neither do you. But if he truly has CD, then he likely scares them and you cannot supervise them all the time. I would be very worried about how he was with them when my eyes were not on them. I mean when I was not actually in the room with them. Or when my back was to them. This may be something to think about. Whatever you decide, I hope it works well for your family. You can only do the best you can with the information and tools you have. When you have better tools and information, you do better. That is truly all anyone can ask of you! [/QUOTE]
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