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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 236373" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry things are going this way so soon after the psychiatric hospital discharge. I think he was released too soon, and was NOT stable. I also wonder what the tegretol is supposed to do. Esp as they raised the dosage so quickly.</p><p></p><p>I do agree that if cigs will allow him to self calm, make that a basket D issue. Simply because it is such a big challenge to quit. and if you smoke, having the smell around will make him crave cigarrettes. It will be much easier to deal with the cigarrette issue when he is stable.</p><p></p><p>I worry about the phone line. Do you have a cell phone, even just an old one with no contract? because you can call 911 from any cell phone that has a battery charge - it is a federal requirement. Him tkaing hte phone line is an attempt to control you and keep you from getting help if he hurts himself or you. This is serious. if you don't have a cell phone you may want to get one of the pay by the minute phones for emergencies. </p><p></p><p>Sadly, cutting is no longer something that qualifies for psychiatric hospital admission unless the person gets infected or cuts WAY too deep. It is seen as a way of handling emotional pain, not as a suicide attempt. I can remember crying when the insurance co told me this. I then got a box of alcohol swabs, the ones used for shots? at walmart for about $1. I sat with Wiz and told him if he was going to cut he was going to use some basic precautions so that he did not end up with an infection. I had to talk to him about cleaning the knife/razor blade ESP if another person had used it and they were "sharing". I told him if I learned he was sharing a razor blade with someone that he would have to go through all SORTS of medical tests as you can share HIV, hepatitus, almost ANY disease through sharing blood. I taught him to use the alcohol swabs to clean the skin, the knife, and to clean up after himself so his siblings were not exposed to blood. I know he used them while cutting. Sadly, the sting of the alcohol was not a deterrent. I KNOW you don't want to encourage cutting. But if youcannot make him stop, you may want to think about teaching how to avoid infections from it. </p><p></p><p>He would be acting this way no matter where he was, even at psychiatric hospital if he didnt' work so hard at telling them what they wanted to hear. Your relationship may be somewhat "enmeshed", but I honestly don't think you are the cause of his behavior. And I don't think he would be able to honeymoon for long at a "long term" psychiatric hospital or at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry the "experts" keep wanting to blame you for difficult child's problems. It is unbelievable the lengths these people are going to in order to NOT provide services to your son. Actually, I find the lengths the "system" is going to in order to let your son fall through the cracks to be morally reprehansible. Esp on the part of the therapist and psychiatrist who told YOU that he needed Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but refused to tell the "system" and the PO that he needs it. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. And so worried about both of you. I am praying that SOON the system starts working properly for you and gets your son the help he needs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 236373, member: 1233"] I am so sorry things are going this way so soon after the psychiatric hospital discharge. I think he was released too soon, and was NOT stable. I also wonder what the tegretol is supposed to do. Esp as they raised the dosage so quickly. I do agree that if cigs will allow him to self calm, make that a basket D issue. Simply because it is such a big challenge to quit. and if you smoke, having the smell around will make him crave cigarrettes. It will be much easier to deal with the cigarrette issue when he is stable. I worry about the phone line. Do you have a cell phone, even just an old one with no contract? because you can call 911 from any cell phone that has a battery charge - it is a federal requirement. Him tkaing hte phone line is an attempt to control you and keep you from getting help if he hurts himself or you. This is serious. if you don't have a cell phone you may want to get one of the pay by the minute phones for emergencies. Sadly, cutting is no longer something that qualifies for psychiatric hospital admission unless the person gets infected or cuts WAY too deep. It is seen as a way of handling emotional pain, not as a suicide attempt. I can remember crying when the insurance co told me this. I then got a box of alcohol swabs, the ones used for shots? at walmart for about $1. I sat with Wiz and told him if he was going to cut he was going to use some basic precautions so that he did not end up with an infection. I had to talk to him about cleaning the knife/razor blade ESP if another person had used it and they were "sharing". I told him if I learned he was sharing a razor blade with someone that he would have to go through all SORTS of medical tests as you can share HIV, hepatitus, almost ANY disease through sharing blood. I taught him to use the alcohol swabs to clean the skin, the knife, and to clean up after himself so his siblings were not exposed to blood. I know he used them while cutting. Sadly, the sting of the alcohol was not a deterrent. I KNOW you don't want to encourage cutting. But if youcannot make him stop, you may want to think about teaching how to avoid infections from it. He would be acting this way no matter where he was, even at psychiatric hospital if he didnt' work so hard at telling them what they wanted to hear. Your relationship may be somewhat "enmeshed", but I honestly don't think you are the cause of his behavior. And I don't think he would be able to honeymoon for long at a "long term" psychiatric hospital or at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I am so sorry the "experts" keep wanting to blame you for difficult child's problems. It is unbelievable the lengths these people are going to in order to NOT provide services to your son. Actually, I find the lengths the "system" is going to in order to let your son fall through the cracks to be morally reprehansible. Esp on the part of the therapist and psychiatrist who told YOU that he needed Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but refused to tell the "system" and the PO that he needs it. I am so sorry. And so worried about both of you. I am praying that SOON the system starts working properly for you and gets your son the help he needs. [/QUOTE]
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