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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 375549" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Several things come to my mind about this, with no actual advice but I'll throw out these thoughts to consider:</p><p></p><p>1) Many war vets end up with addictions due to PTSD. I definitely believe most never understood that when Vietnam ended or in earlier time periods. Kuddos to anyone who get treated and was able to recouperate from it all- the war and tthe addiction. in my humble opinion, that is NOT something to hold against a person- the military considers it a medical issue, not a behavior problem.</p><p></p><p>2) I would not push for other members of the family to re-establish a relationship- there were probably things (other things) that happened that you don't know about. If you want a relationship, fine, and if you think the family is doing well and overcome obastacles, etc.,, maybe mention to your parents that you have met them and they are no longer living the way they were then let them decide whether or not to rekindle things. You can't determine by what you know if this guy had done something horrible that no one outside that family knows or if it was just that the family disapproved of the addiction habits and did not understand PTSD. Until I knew if there was more to it than that, I would tread lightly.</p><p></p><p>That's just my 2 cents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 375549, member: 3699"] Several things come to my mind about this, with no actual advice but I'll throw out these thoughts to consider: 1) Many war vets end up with addictions due to PTSD. I definitely believe most never understood that when Vietnam ended or in earlier time periods. Kuddos to anyone who get treated and was able to recouperate from it all- the war and tthe addiction. in my humble opinion, that is NOT something to hold against a person- the military considers it a medical issue, not a behavior problem. 2) I would not push for other members of the family to re-establish a relationship- there were probably things (other things) that happened that you don't know about. If you want a relationship, fine, and if you think the family is doing well and overcome obastacles, etc.,, maybe mention to your parents that you have met them and they are no longer living the way they were then let them decide whether or not to rekindle things. You can't determine by what you know if this guy had done something horrible that no one outside that family knows or if it was just that the family disapproved of the addiction habits and did not understand PTSD. Until I knew if there was more to it than that, I would tread lightly. That's just my 2 cents. [/QUOTE]
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