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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 752843" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think he needs the idea of you at this point, in his life. The idea of you, is enough. He does not need that his venom actually be received by you. So. Your protecting yourself, will not hurt him. Rather, it will help him. The ideal would be that you are strong, safe, protected, intact--independent of him. This gives him the potential to be that himself. He needs you to be okay, without him. Part of this on his part may be fear, that you will dissolve without him. He needs to feel that you'll be okay, even if he withdraws, to make himself independent and whole.</p><p></p><p>This is another reason why it would be better to pull away for a time...it allows him to come to grips with himself, and at the same time reassures him you are okay.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 752843, member: 18958"] I think he needs the idea of you at this point, in his life. The idea of you, is enough. He does not need that his venom actually be received by you. So. Your protecting yourself, will not hurt him. Rather, it will help him. The ideal would be that you are strong, safe, protected, intact--independent of him. This gives him the potential to be that himself. He needs you to be okay, without him. Part of this on his part may be fear, that you will dissolve without him. He needs to feel that you'll be okay, even if he withdraws, to make himself independent and whole. This is another reason why it would be better to pull away for a time...it allows him to come to grips with himself, and at the same time reassures him you are okay. [/QUOTE]
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