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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 752846" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think our children are on a spectrum. I know what I wrote may sound wacky to some, but it is well-established psychology. Not every psychologist uses this way of thinking to inform their work, but many do. It may apply to some of our kids, which is why I posted it. I don't think we are served by being divided into categories of good or bad. I believe that some people do get locked into stereotypical and enduring patterns of behavior, that some may describe as personality disorders. But it is not necessarily useful to go there. I think conflict and thinking of personality in terms of attachment and relationships, is more useful. To some, not all.</p><p></p><p>And while we can have short-term relief by understanding our kids as psychopathic or with pathological characters, in the long run it serves neither our kids or us. It freezes us (and them) into types. Of course there are people who never change. And they are frozen. But many are not.</p><p></p><p>Again. I feel very strongly that parents here deserve to have hope (not false hope) and that it is not my role to deprive them of this based upon my own personal agony and experience.</p><p>What's sad about this? Of course infants differ in temperament.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 752846, member: 18958"] I think our children are on a spectrum. I know what I wrote may sound wacky to some, but it is well-established psychology. Not every psychologist uses this way of thinking to inform their work, but many do. It may apply to some of our kids, which is why I posted it. I don't think we are served by being divided into categories of good or bad. I believe that some people do get locked into stereotypical and enduring patterns of behavior, that some may describe as personality disorders. But it is not necessarily useful to go there. I think conflict and thinking of personality in terms of attachment and relationships, is more useful. To some, not all. And while we can have short-term relief by understanding our kids as psychopathic or with pathological characters, in the long run it serves neither our kids or us. It freezes us (and them) into types. Of course there are people who never change. And they are frozen. But many are not. Again. I feel very strongly that parents here deserve to have hope (not false hope) and that it is not my role to deprive them of this based upon my own personal agony and experience. What's sad about this? Of course infants differ in temperament. [/QUOTE]
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