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<blockquote data-quote="detachingmother" data-source="post: 679792" data-attributes="member: 20063"><p>Up and Down, Just wanted to drop another quick line.</p><p></p><p>When the kids start presenting with depression, listen. When your just getting started with a teen, and it seems like a crazy world inside his head, just listen closely.</p><p></p><p>Even then, it's hard. But I think he told you exactly what was up. He said he was not happy with the world in his own teen kind of way. I too would be trying a mood stablizer first.</p><p></p><p>With that said, back when son first started presenting problems, I would not have had a clue. I only am looking back in hindsight and wished I would have done a whole heck of a lot of due diligence.</p><p></p><p>Just my Opinion. of course...hard to get a total grasp on your son, and can only go by what I read.</p><p></p><p>The best suggestion I can think of is IF you go with Adderall, I would count, watch, observe as closely as possible to sleep habits, actions, even what friends he spends time with...I would not let him have the bottle of pills, that</p><p>'s for sure. I would also not let him know I was observing everything so closely...as teens hate to feel like Mommy is watching and waiting to react.</p><p></p><p>Eyes and Ears have to be open wide, but not so much so that he can sense you all over him...also with any medication, and I am sure you know this but it's worth saying...it takes a few weeks for a mood stabilizer to take full effect and for them to get used to it, so could be tired a lot at first. Patience is a must.</p><p></p><p>I hope you are having a better day. Dealing with teens can be a rollercoaster ride anyway, but add in adjustment problems and it's tough. Transitioning to teen hood is often as hard on a kid as it is the parents.</p><p></p><p>I agree with homeschooling too...some kids just don't belong in school enviro. Mine didn't. I could not home school though. No way. I had three kids that I was supporting myself with no outside help whatsoever. Son never finished school at that level, but he did get GED and is smarter than most businessmen I know...he's a genius at marketing, started his own two businesses, when he's in non mental ill mode, there is NO stopping this kid.</p><p></p><p>So please don't get stuck in a rut of laying all your chips on traditional ways of doing things when dealing with a difficult child. Some of them just simply will not do well or accept societal "norms". If given a chance they find their own ways that way.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. I feel for you. When my Son was 16, I would have had a better chance had I been on top of things better, and followed the suggestions I gave here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="detachingmother, post: 679792, member: 20063"] Up and Down, Just wanted to drop another quick line. When the kids start presenting with depression, listen. When your just getting started with a teen, and it seems like a crazy world inside his head, just listen closely. Even then, it's hard. But I think he told you exactly what was up. He said he was not happy with the world in his own teen kind of way. I too would be trying a mood stablizer first. With that said, back when son first started presenting problems, I would not have had a clue. I only am looking back in hindsight and wished I would have done a whole heck of a lot of due diligence. Just my Opinion. of course...hard to get a total grasp on your son, and can only go by what I read. The best suggestion I can think of is IF you go with Adderall, I would count, watch, observe as closely as possible to sleep habits, actions, even what friends he spends time with...I would not let him have the bottle of pills, that 's for sure. I would also not let him know I was observing everything so closely...as teens hate to feel like Mommy is watching and waiting to react. Eyes and Ears have to be open wide, but not so much so that he can sense you all over him...also with any medication, and I am sure you know this but it's worth saying...it takes a few weeks for a mood stabilizer to take full effect and for them to get used to it, so could be tired a lot at first. Patience is a must. I hope you are having a better day. Dealing with teens can be a rollercoaster ride anyway, but add in adjustment problems and it's tough. Transitioning to teen hood is often as hard on a kid as it is the parents. I agree with homeschooling too...some kids just don't belong in school enviro. Mine didn't. I could not home school though. No way. I had three kids that I was supporting myself with no outside help whatsoever. Son never finished school at that level, but he did get GED and is smarter than most businessmen I know...he's a genius at marketing, started his own two businesses, when he's in non mental ill mode, there is NO stopping this kid. So please don't get stuck in a rut of laying all your chips on traditional ways of doing things when dealing with a difficult child. Some of them just simply will not do well or accept societal "norms". If given a chance they find their own ways that way. Hugs to you. I feel for you. When my Son was 16, I would have had a better chance had I been on top of things better, and followed the suggestions I gave here. [/QUOTE]
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