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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 264037" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>While failing in school obviously has a negative consequence, unless you think he will just not finish high school, I don't think it will ruin his life. He might not get into the college you prefer, but if he gets himself together, he could still get a college degree and job, etc. If he still needs you to supervise his homework, how will he do in college anyway? If you plan to supervise him in college or if you don't think he will go to college, how will he do at a job without you? It's better to face the negative consequence now than later when it will matter more.</p><p></p><p>I don't mean this to be harsh. These are just some thoughts I had about difficult child 1 when she had a bad grade last fall from not doing her homework. I have never had to supervise her homework and didn't want to start when she was in the 7th Grade. In her case, we ended up offering a financial incentive for all A's that was large enough to get her motivated to do her work. There wasn't an underlying reason for her not doing her homework. She just didn't see the need to do it when she could still get "good enough" grades without doing it.</p><p></p><p>I have found a tutoring place for difficult child 2 that helps with study skills and organization. She goes 2x weekly and can bring homework there. They gave planners to the others in her group and will help the kids stay on top of their assignments. The goal is to teach them how to do this not just monitor them. Maybe your difficult child would benefit from something like this, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 264037, member: 1792"] While failing in school obviously has a negative consequence, unless you think he will just not finish high school, I don't think it will ruin his life. He might not get into the college you prefer, but if he gets himself together, he could still get a college degree and job, etc. If he still needs you to supervise his homework, how will he do in college anyway? If you plan to supervise him in college or if you don't think he will go to college, how will he do at a job without you? It's better to face the negative consequence now than later when it will matter more. I don't mean this to be harsh. These are just some thoughts I had about difficult child 1 when she had a bad grade last fall from not doing her homework. I have never had to supervise her homework and didn't want to start when she was in the 7th Grade. In her case, we ended up offering a financial incentive for all A's that was large enough to get her motivated to do her work. There wasn't an underlying reason for her not doing her homework. She just didn't see the need to do it when she could still get "good enough" grades without doing it. I have found a tutoring place for difficult child 2 that helps with study skills and organization. She goes 2x weekly and can bring homework there. They gave planners to the others in her group and will help the kids stay on top of their assignments. The goal is to teach them how to do this not just monitor them. Maybe your difficult child would benefit from something like this, too. [/QUOTE]
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