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<blockquote data-quote="whatamess" data-source="post: 575140" data-attributes="member: 7664"><p>If your child is on the spectrum, he will thrive on the predictability. I think that's where people get confused about- using power and control to force their will getting results vs. the predictability of routine and expectations that are within a child's capabilities (not necessaril what we want/expect them to be able to do) getting the results. It is not that you are becoming a taskmaster and he wants to suddenly obey you, it is that if the expectations are placed and the routine is formed, you will see compliance from anxiety reduction. It would probably be in yours, your child on the spectrum and his sibs best interest to create visuals of expectations (again, not everything you think/wish your child should be/act like, but the things they can accomplish minimally) and create predictability around those expectations. You don't need to get 'tougher', your child needs routine to establish expectations and predicitability.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="whatamess, post: 575140, member: 7664"] If your child is on the spectrum, he will thrive on the predictability. I think that's where people get confused about- using power and control to force their will getting results vs. the predictability of routine and expectations that are within a child's capabilities (not necessaril what we want/expect them to be able to do) getting the results. It is not that you are becoming a taskmaster and he wants to suddenly obey you, it is that if the expectations are placed and the routine is formed, you will see compliance from anxiety reduction. It would probably be in yours, your child on the spectrum and his sibs best interest to create visuals of expectations (again, not everything you think/wish your child should be/act like, but the things they can accomplish minimally) and create predictability around those expectations. You don't need to get 'tougher', your child needs routine to establish expectations and predicitability. [/QUOTE]
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