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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 472602" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Well.....the honest answer is....possibly. He probably will <em>not</em> get stuck on being mad at you over phosph - but as he becomes more and more of a teenager he might start targeting you with his anger since you are the only one that loves him enough to help. It is very common, especially for boys of single moms, for them to suddenly decide that Mom is the reason for every single thing that is bothering them.</p><p></p><p>Matt got caught in a horrible repetitious pattern of taking all things out on me. I let it go on way too long, until it almost became enmeshed into our style of living. It came to an end the day he punched me in the back and floored me. He was 17, and 6'2, and he had to leave the home once it became physical. In that respect the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was good because it broke his pattern of abuse.</p><p></p><p>Now he looks back on that period of time, and feels unbelievable guilty. His guilt about how he treated me in the past is almost hindering his every action he has in the present. It is sad. Truth be told, if there was really guilt to be assigned it should be to me for allowing to go so long. I think we both feel horrible - and yet at the time - we were locked in this very dysfunctional pattern and I didn't know how to make it stop. </p><p></p><p>So not to upset you more - but just realize there is the possibility that as he matures he will want to use you as his release for his anger. It cannot be taken personally, and you will not lose him as your son who loves you - he just might take a temporary detour.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 472602, member: 3301"] Well.....the honest answer is....possibly. He probably will [I]not[/I] get stuck on being mad at you over phosph - but as he becomes more and more of a teenager he might start targeting you with his anger since you are the only one that loves him enough to help. It is very common, especially for boys of single moms, for them to suddenly decide that Mom is the reason for every single thing that is bothering them. Matt got caught in a horrible repetitious pattern of taking all things out on me. I let it go on way too long, until it almost became enmeshed into our style of living. It came to an end the day he punched me in the back and floored me. He was 17, and 6'2, and he had to leave the home once it became physical. In that respect the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was good because it broke his pattern of abuse. Now he looks back on that period of time, and feels unbelievable guilty. His guilt about how he treated me in the past is almost hindering his every action he has in the present. It is sad. Truth be told, if there was really guilt to be assigned it should be to me for allowing to go so long. I think we both feel horrible - and yet at the time - we were locked in this very dysfunctional pattern and I didn't know how to make it stop. So not to upset you more - but just realize there is the possibility that as he matures he will want to use you as his release for his anger. It cannot be taken personally, and you will not lose him as your son who loves you - he just might take a temporary detour. [/QUOTE]
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