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<blockquote data-quote="lovelyboy" data-source="post: 531053" data-attributes="member: 8045"><p>Hi Terry.....first I want to say how sorry I am that your family, including your son, has to gothrough this!!!!</p><p>Me and difficult child went through the almost same thing 2 days ago.....It broke my heart...its just sucks up all your energy! The only difference was that you handled it much better than I did! Usually I can handle it, but for some reason my system just gave in and I overstepped all the bounderies! I broke EVERY rule in EVERY book I have read so far! And believe me we are paying the consequences of my son feeling insecure now and acting out! I was emotionally in a BIG mess yesterday! I could see my son was really trying his best yesterday to behave better! We had a nice chat and hugs last night.....BUT as we all know, this usually doesnt last long......<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p>I was a bit shocked in your psychiatrist reaction.....is this his normal way of handling your son? </p><p>Maybe this is what he thinks your son needs? Maybe he is right?</p><p>But like me and hubby spoke last night.....we can punish, we can be nice, we can be rude, we can be everything.....it just seems as if our difficult child cant internalize it and REALIZE </p><p>that he is behaving disrespectfull or rude and make poor choices....He sometimes gets it right for a while...</p><p></p><p>This really makes me wonder if they ever CAN?!</p><p>I mean surely it must not be nice for them to always be in the soft and smellies!?</p><p>If a person can choose behaviour to get nice loving reactions.....wouldnt they?</p><p>I dont know.....I dont think anybody reallies knows what goes on in their brains? </p><p>But what I do know from the little experience we had so far....the more we turn on the heat, punish, gets strict, exct.....the more he acts out....because the more he feels rejected and insecure.....</p><p>Big, big hugs coming your way and blessings to get strenght and insight in doing what might help!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovelyboy, post: 531053, member: 8045"] Hi Terry.....first I want to say how sorry I am that your family, including your son, has to gothrough this!!!! Me and difficult child went through the almost same thing 2 days ago.....It broke my heart...its just sucks up all your energy! The only difference was that you handled it much better than I did! Usually I can handle it, but for some reason my system just gave in and I overstepped all the bounderies! I broke EVERY rule in EVERY book I have read so far! And believe me we are paying the consequences of my son feeling insecure now and acting out! I was emotionally in a BIG mess yesterday! I could see my son was really trying his best yesterday to behave better! We had a nice chat and hugs last night.....BUT as we all know, this usually doesnt last long......:( I was a bit shocked in your psychiatrist reaction.....is this his normal way of handling your son? Maybe this is what he thinks your son needs? Maybe he is right? But like me and hubby spoke last night.....we can punish, we can be nice, we can be rude, we can be everything.....it just seems as if our difficult child cant internalize it and REALIZE that he is behaving disrespectfull or rude and make poor choices....He sometimes gets it right for a while... This really makes me wonder if they ever CAN?! I mean surely it must not be nice for them to always be in the soft and smellies!? If a person can choose behaviour to get nice loving reactions.....wouldnt they? I dont know.....I dont think anybody reallies knows what goes on in their brains? But what I do know from the little experience we had so far....the more we turn on the heat, punish, gets strict, exct.....the more he acts out....because the more he feels rejected and insecure..... Big, big hugs coming your way and blessings to get strenght and insight in doing what might help! [/QUOTE]
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