<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: rejectedmom</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
I wrote him back and said this:
"As far as the military goes...well the felonies and the drug abuse will make it very hard for you to get in. Maybe after you prove you can live clean and honest you may be allowed to join the Job Corps or the Peace Corps. Right now your focus should be on substance abuse counseling, anger management, and aquiring good life skills and good general mental health. Please don't worry, you can still do good works outside of the military. When you put your whole self into redeeming yourself you will earn the respect and honor you desire."
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Given the explanation of your son's personality provided in your last posting RM, I think you are taking the right tack on this. I might change the part about being "allowed" to join the Peace Corp or Job Corp, and say something like "Maybe after you prove you can live clean and honest you may want to consider the Peace Corps or even, the Job Corps. The focus on these organizations is on helping people so they can learn to help themselves, and I think you might like that, very much."
I think the letter is very positive and encouraging without raising false hopes.
This is all so hard, RM.
You will know the right way to handle everything as it comes up.
One step at a time, right?
How are you holding up through this, RM?
Barbara
