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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 739545" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>We gave a lot of thought to this. My husband and I have spent a great deal of money over the past twelve years trying to help our older daughter get sober. It didn't seem fair to our younger daughter who has always done everything right to split what is left.</p><p></p><p>So, we drew up the will with our youngest daughter getting an equal amount to what we have already spent on our oldest daughter to even things out and then the two of them splitting the rest. We told both daughters that we had done this and they were both okay with it.</p><p></p><p>My older daughter was newly in recovery when we drew up the will so a close friend of mine agreed to handle her portion of the money so that my daughter would receive a third now, another third when she gets to 35 and the remainder when she gets to 40 (of course, this is assuming both my husband and I were dead before then . . . let's hope this doesn't happen). We figured that way she couldn't burn through it all at once. Our younger daughter is the executor of the will but we didn't want her to have to handle the older one's money. We were afraid that the older one would badger the younger one for the money and it would create a burden on our younger daughter.</p><p></p><p>Even now that our daughter has been sober for over two years, she still doesn't handle money very well (pays her bills but never has anything left over) so I am glad that she would still get it portioned out if something happens to both of us.</p><p></p><p>We feel comfortable about our decision and that is the important thing. You have to do what you feel is fair and then let it go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 739545, member: 1967"] We gave a lot of thought to this. My husband and I have spent a great deal of money over the past twelve years trying to help our older daughter get sober. It didn't seem fair to our younger daughter who has always done everything right to split what is left. So, we drew up the will with our youngest daughter getting an equal amount to what we have already spent on our oldest daughter to even things out and then the two of them splitting the rest. We told both daughters that we had done this and they were both okay with it. My older daughter was newly in recovery when we drew up the will so a close friend of mine agreed to handle her portion of the money so that my daughter would receive a third now, another third when she gets to 35 and the remainder when she gets to 40 (of course, this is assuming both my husband and I were dead before then . . . let's hope this doesn't happen). We figured that way she couldn't burn through it all at once. Our younger daughter is the executor of the will but we didn't want her to have to handle the older one's money. We were afraid that the older one would badger the younger one for the money and it would create a burden on our younger daughter. Even now that our daughter has been sober for over two years, she still doesn't handle money very well (pays her bills but never has anything left over) so I am glad that she would still get it portioned out if something happens to both of us. We feel comfortable about our decision and that is the important thing. You have to do what you feel is fair and then let it go. [/QUOTE]
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