<font color="purple">i know you are hurt & disappointed. i think even when our kids are PCs it's a mistake to expect gratitude or even acknowledgement for what we have sacrificed as parents.
i think there is a middle ground to be found here. continue contact & visits, but don't invest yourself (get hopeful) about any program, early parole, etc., that might come down the pike. when he tells you about any of these things, alleged changes in attitude simply say something along the lines of, "good luck with-that. i hope it's successful for you." then let it drop. you can keep contact with-o allowing yourself to become embroiled in all the attendant drama.
in your shoes, this is what i would aim for.
kris </font>
