RM, he's wanting you to throw money at it to make it all better. Don't. You've always done it before - I can almost hear the whining.
He's also trying to throw the guilt back on you - if you don't help him, he won't survive.
It's his choice. It always has been his choice. Doing the course is too hard, when you know you have parents out there who love you who would get you out with enough money, if only they would do it. Why do the course? Just plead to parents, make them feel guilty, work the emotions a bit (there are plenty of inmates who are maybe helping him with ideas, tips & tricks) and then he won't have to do the course.
And what will he do when he's out? I dunno. Something. Hang round, I s'pose. Can't get a job easily, not with a record. Hate rejection. They're all unfair. Need money from somewhere, though. parents won't give any - say they've got none. Always had it before, why are they being mean? Gotta get money form somewhere to buy smokes & stuff.
He's made his bed, he has to lie in it. You have run out of resources, both financial and personal. And don't let the guilt land on you either.
If he tries anything stupid, its HIS choice. He's still looking for the easy way through. He's always had choices. He still has choices. He has support in place. He's just not using it because he thinks you guys are an easier way.
You need to write yourselves a HUGE sign, hang it over your kitchen door - DETACH.
Good luck. It's not easy.
Marg
